☆The era of pre-wedding pics

This is ia a straight forward and frank message from an unknown sister. I usually don’t endorse this way of addressing people but no doubt she made it this way because this a much needed advice in this generation of ours. And ultimately because that we are not granted the next hour on this earth. May Allah (swt) bless her and  you too as you read it. Do enjoy reading….

People go round holding and smooching each other without marriage in the name of pre-wedding pics, how guaranteed are you that indeed you will pass today and get married tomorrow? Let’s say you are even alive, how guaranteed are you that Allah will not change your plans for you? How assured are you that tomorrow definitely you will get married? Have you stopped even for a while to think this man is my non Muharram? Do you even know what that means? The man you are thinking you are getting married to is not yet your HUSBAND! And You brother the lady you are thinking of getting married to is not yet your WIFE!! Basically, you don’t even feel that jealous when you see your would be wife’s body exposed, your friends looking at her boobs and shape and you are proud that you made the best choice because she is beautiful, has long hair, tall, slim, figure 8 and just exactly how you want her to be. Have you forgotten that this is Haram? Have you forgotten the verse of the Qur’an that says you should protect you and your family from hell fire? Have you forgotten the Hadith that says he who does not feel jealous of his wife will not enter paradise? Have you forgotten you are here in this world for a purpose and that purpose is to Worship and Submit yourself only to Allah? Have you forgotten the purpose of your existence? Have you forgotten the day of judgement? By snapping these pictures you are inviting others to do the same, you will also get punished for their actions because you were part of it.
Oh My Dear sister and brother, I have used my hand to correct the bad I have seen as I was instructed to do, I have removed the burden of not telling you the truth from my head, I pray that Allah guide us to the straight path, I pray that this will be a reminder for you, that you will repent and In Shaa Allah we will meet in Jannah, my dear sister and brother Wallahi I love you and I want to see you and your family walk to paradise with angels accompanying to paradise. I pray we meet in Jannah and I pray this serves as a reminder to you
and the people around you.
Please pass this to as many people as you can, may Allah reward you abundantly. Amin

1st february & The World Hijab Day frenzy.

In the name of Allah, the Most Merciful, the Most Beneficial.

February 1st of every year is now marked world hijab day. This was created to raise awareness about hijab and clear misconceptions regarding it. The question now is whether that aim is really being met? or is it just doing more harm than good?

Every deed in islam has to be done in accordance with the shari’ah and sunnah in order for it to be accepted, and the hijab is no exception. It also isn’t any coincidence that in both the two places the command of hijab was mentioned in the qur’an, they were coupled with its conditions. And the same goes for the many ahadiths about the hijab. Allah (swt) said:

-And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.)  And not to show off their adornments except only that which is apparent (outer dress like veil, gloves, head-cover, apron, etc.), and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, necks and bosoms, etc.) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband’s fathers, their sons, their husband’s sons, their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful(Q24:31)

-O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies. That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is Ever OftForgiving, Most Merciful. (33:59)

We wear the hijab because its a command from Allah so therefore it has to be in accordance with how He (swt) said it should be it. In the first verse, it is said not to show off your adornments. We all know adornments are those things that beautify &decorate us. This includes  our beautiful clothes, jewelries, make-up e.t.c   The second condition which appeared in both verses was ‘to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, necks and bosoms, etc.)’ This refers to the outer covering, which is not adorned, to be drawn all over our bodies.

The hijab we see all over the net in the name of ‘creating awareness” and encouraging women to wear it” by world hijab day event has nothing to do with this.  I wonder where on earth they got their definition of hijab. Apparently what they consider to be  a hijab is a scarf over the head, and for some, a scarf plus some beautifully decorated body fitting long clothing which is considered the ‘covering’. Subhanallah!  How is it that a man-made definition of hijab is created just so we can suit our desires? Who are we wearing the hijab for in the first place?

If it isn’t obvious, just the action of wearing a covering with big bold and beautiful eye-catching patterns in different colours is in of itself ridiculous. The main purpose of the hijab is not to draw attention to ourselves as Allah (swt) said:  ‘That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed’ (annoyed by people staring and flirting with them, the reason why the verse was revealed). And likewise, a covering that is body clinging cannot cover our bosoms, thighs, figures e.tc but can only reveal them the more.

Now, not only does world hijab day advocates this wrong type of hijab to the world, it also promotes the the act of women displaying themselves.

Muslim women take pictures of themselves wearing the supposed hijab and show it to the world in order to prove to others they are not oppressed. As muslim women, displaying ourselves totally goes against the teachings of islam. How is it that we actually call people to look at us (i.e by displaying our pictures) and we say we wear the hijab to divert attention from us? How can we help men to lower their gazes by displaying ourselves to them? Allah (swt) referred to such people as those copying the women of the time of ‘jahiliyyah’!
“and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance”  (Q33:33).

Futhermore, lets be true to ourselves when answering this question: does the hijab really need any more awareness? What more awareness does it need since it has been the subject of controversy all over the media and the world at large for many years? And for goodness sake, the hijab is a command of Allah not something we choose to do or not. The main event on that day is that women, both muslims and non-muslims try the hijab and experience how it feels for a day. Subhanallah! Duhh? its a command of Allah? How is it that we call muslim women to try wearing the hijab for a day? We should only consistently  remind them to fear Allah and judgement day and abide by its command. In another ayah, Allah (swt) says:
It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed in a plain error ” (Q33:36)

The whole concept of world hijab day as we have now seen is of no signifance but rather doing“more harm than good”  as quoted earlier.  Lets call our sisters that have already fallen into this trap before its ill effects spread beyond our control.  The mere act of insisting to wear the hijab despite all the odds is enough to clear any misconception people have about it such as women been oppressed, no need of going about displaying ourselves.

We don’t need any special day to celebrate our hijab. Its a command of Allah, and that’s enough for it to be special.

Abu Hurairah radiyallahu anhu reported Allah’s messenger sallallahu alaihe wasallam having said this, “Their are two groups of people destined for the fire of hell. First, those officials who would carry with them whips looking like the tails of cows and they would use them for whipping people. Secondly, those women who would be naked despite being apparently clothed. They themselves will be inclined towards men and lure them as well. Their heads will be tall like the humps of Bukhti camels, bent onto one side (their hair will be styled in a bun). They will neither enter Paradise nor would they even smell the fragrance of Paradise which can be detected from great distances.” (Saheeh Muslim, Hadeeth # 2128)

Umm muh’d,
Www.themuslimh.wordpress.com

1st february & The World Hijab Day frenzy.

In the name of Allah, the Most Merciful, the Most Beneficial.

February 1st of every year is now marked world hijab day. This was created to raise awareness about hijab and clear misconceptions regarding it. The question now is whether that aim is really being met? or is it just doing more harm than good?

Every deed in islam has to be done in accordance with the shari’ah and sunnah in order for it to be accepted, and the hijab is no exception. It also isn’t any coincidence that in both the two places the command of hijab was mentioned in the qur’an, they were coupled with its conditions. And the same goes for the many ahadiths about the hijab. Allah (swt) said:

-And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.)  And not to show off their adornments except only that which is apparent (outer dress like veil, gloves, head-cover, apron, etc.), and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, necks and bosoms, etc.) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband’s fathers, their sons, their husband’s sons, their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful(Q24:31)

-O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies. That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is Ever OftForgiving, Most Merciful. (33:59)

We wear the hijab because its a command from Allah so therefore it has to be in accordance with how He (swt) said it should be it. In the first verse, it is said not to show off your adornments. We all know adornments are those things that beautify &decorate us. This includes  our beautiful clothes, jewelries, make-up e.t.c   The second condition which appeared in both verses was ‘to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, necks and bosoms, etc.)’ This refers to the outer covering, which is not adorned, to be drawn all over our bodies.

The hijab we see all over the net in the name of ‘creating awareness” and encouraging women to wear it” by world hijab day event has nothing to do with this.  I wonder where on earth they got their definition of hijab. Apparently what they consider to be  a hijab is a scarf over the head, and for some, a scarf plus some beautifully decorated body fitting long clothing which is considered the ‘covering’. Subhanallah!  How is it that a man-made definition of hijab is created just so we can suit our desires? Who are we wearing the hijab for in the first place?

If it isn’t obvious, just the action of wearing a covering with big bold and beautiful eye-catching patterns in different colours is in of itself ridiculous. The main purpose of the hijab is not to draw attention to ourselves as Allah (swt) said:  ‘That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed’ (annoyed by people staring and flirting with them, the reason why the verse was revealed). And likewise, a covering that is body clinging cannot cover our bosoms, thighs, figures e.tc but can only reveal them the more.

Now, not only does world hijab day advocates this wrong type of hijab to the world, it also promotes the the act of women displaying themselves.

Muslim women take pictures of themselves wearing the supposed hijab and show it to the world in order to prove to others they are not oppressed. As muslim women, displaying ourselves totally goes against the teachings of islam. How is it that we actually call people to look at us (i.e by displaying our pictures) and we say we wear the hijab to divert attention from us? How can we help men to lower their gazes by displaying ourselves to them? Allah (swt) referred to such people as those copying the women of the time of ‘jahiliyyah’!
“and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance”  (Q33:33).

Futhermore, lets be true to ourselves when answering this question: does the hijab really need any more awareness? What more awareness does it need since it has been the subject of controversy all over the media and the world at large for many years? And for goodness sake, the hijab is a command of Allah not something we choose to do or not. The main event on that day is that women, both muslims and non-muslims try the hijab and experience how it feels for a day. Subhanallah! Duhh? its a command of Allah? How is it that we call muslim women to try wearing the hijab for a day? We should only consistently  remind them to fear Allah and judgement day and abide by its command. In another ayah, Allah (swt) says:
It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed in a plain error ” (Q33:36)

The whole concept of world hijab day as we have now seen is of no signifance but rather doing“more harm than good”  as quoted earlier.  Lets call our sisters that have already fallen into this trap before its ill effects spread beyond our control.  The mere act of insisting to wear the hijab despite all the odds is enough to clear any misconception people have about it such as women been oppressed, no need of going about displaying ourselves.

We don’t need any special day to celebrate our hijab. Its a command of Allah, and that’s enough for it to be special.

Abu Hurairah radiyallahu anhu reported Allah’s messenger sallallahu alaihe wasallam having said this, “Their are two groups of people destined for the fire of hell. First, those officials who would carry with them whips looking like the tails of cows and they would use them for whipping people. Secondly, those women who would be naked despite being apparently clothed. They themselves will be inclined towards men and lure them as well. Their heads will be tall like the humps of Bukhti camels, bent onto one side (their hair will be styled in a bun). They will neither enter Paradise nor would they even smell the fragrance of Paradise which can be detected from great distances.” (Saheeh Muslim, Hadeeth # 2128)

Umm muh’d,
Www.themuslimh.wordpress.com

The Online Hijab

Bismillah…

It is really troubling what we see our sisters do on social network, its like a whole other person. Let me get straight to the point here. Hijab is Hijab! Online and in life! It’s not enough that in real life you’re covered head to toe but on the internet it’s a different thing. Make no distinction my dear, its the same thing. But what does it mean to wear hijab online? Does it mean to upload pictures with the hijab on or what? Actually my dear, its a much more than just that;

1.Pictures: First of all my dear sister, answer this question; why do you upload pictures? Is it for recognisability, then what’s your name for? The truth of the matter is you and I upload pictures because we want attention, because we like the attention, we all do. But what sort of attention do we really want? and whose? Do we really need some non-mahram guy to tell us we’re beautiful? or that we look like an angel? Allah(SWT) called the muslim woman beautiful, that’s why He ordered her to cover.

You know how it’s said that when a muslimah goes out without hijab, for every eye that looks at her, she gets a share of the sin because she made it a possibility? Well its somewhat the same when she uploads pictures of hers. When you upload a picture, you’re obviously not going to choose one where you just woke up from bed, you’re going to choose one where you look nice, probably dressed up with make up on; and you know that non-mahram guys are going to view it or even save it. They get a sin for not lowering their gaze and you also get a sin for making that sin possible. If you went out with your hijab and he gazes at you, then it is his fault, but now you’re purposely posing for him to look at it.

Think about it, how many guys daily view your picture? Some may even use it as their profile pictures, you know what that means? More sins! Wallahi there are some evil men who have filthy thoughts when they view your picture and do evil things with your pictures.

If you don’t mind that the whole world should view your picture, then I’m sorry but your hayaa is not functioning properly my dear sister and hayaa is a branch of eeman.

 

2-INTERACTING WITH NON-MAHRAMS

Another issue that is of great concern is how our sisters interact so freely with guys over the internet. Highly inappropriate! This is one of the consequence of uploading pictures. A non-mahram starts making comments, saying inappropriate things, calling you ‘hot’ , ‘sexy’ , telling you how he can’t stop viewing your picture or how he’s been thinking of you all night long. Subhanallah, such foul talk, yet most of us would feel flattered at such comments.

Let me ask you, how would you feel if your parents were to view your facebook or twitter account? Or your Quran teacher? Or the prophet(SAW)? Then how do you forget that Allah(SWT) sees all?

Even the tone and language we use is inappropriate, we address some non-mahram guys as ‘dear’, ‘baby’, telling them how we miss them, using kiss and hug smileys with. In reality, would you call a guy that or use such words? Insha Allah you wouldn’t, so why would you do that on social networks? Allah(SWT)
commanded the believing woman.

‘….So do not be too soft in speech, lest someone having disease in his heart should develop fancies (about you);and speak with appropriate words’(Q33:32)

So you see, you’re provoking desires when you’re talking or chatting in such a manner.

My dear sister, I was once a victim of this, uploading pictures, enjoying the ‘oos’ and ‘aas’ ; but wallah I regret every minute of it and I’m still paying the price, having my pictures on random guys phone in far off places. It’s not pleasant at all and I can only hope that Allah(SWT) forgives me. So the earlier you repent the better!

My dear sister, you ARE beautiful! Allah has told you so and I’m also telling you. But this beauty of yours is a test, to see if you’ll guard it or flaunt it around. Don’t let the guys fool you with mere flattery, you’re much valuable than that. I think it’s a real dishonor to have random men viewing your beauty so easily like that.

I wrote this because I care about you and I don’t want you to make the same mistakes that I did .Think about the four greatest women; Khadija, Asiya, Maryam, Fatima, are we really following their footsteps? Would they put themselves on display like that?

My dear sister, fear Allah, remove those pictures,mind your language, don’t displease your maker for over a trivial matter. Remember that everything we do is recorded in our book of deeds. Practice the online hijab and may we all be together in jannah.