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One Day At A Time

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Bismillah.

Being a last born, there’s so much I get to see and witness at a young age. I get to know a lot of things that most people my age don’t know; the good, the bad and the ugly stuffs. 
I’m the last born of a family of six girls, and with girls, there’s usually much more drama. 
I’ve witnessed my sisters go through heartbreaks; I’ve seen my AS-sister say goodbye to her dream guy for fear of Sickle-celled children, I’ve seen another marry the love of her life and still get separated from him and I’ve seen another experience the demise of the man she thought she was going to marry. 
And also, living at my sister’s, when her friends come, I get to hear all about the marital life, mostly the negatives. The fighting, the cheating, the problems, the chaos,etc 

So for a while I became a pessimist, I couldn’t dream about fairy tales cause apparently they don’t exist. Even when I wrote stories, I wrote them with sad endings. I just started worrying about problems before they even came. I would sit down and contemplate for hours about where or when my tests would come, was I going to get sick and become bedridden? Was poverty my test? Was I going to get kicked out of Med school? Was I going to end up in a loveless marriage or an abusive marriage or not even get married at all? Was it going to come from children? Would I not have them or would they turn out bad? I just thought about all the possible bad things that could happen and began worrying about them before their arrival.

But lately, I’m trying to stop this attitude of overthinking, it just ruins your current happiness. I stumbled upon a quote that I’m taking as my life motto now; 

‘Don’t think about what can happen in a month. Don’t think about what can happen in a year. Just focus on the 24hrs in front of you and do what you can to get closer to where you want to be’.
            

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I find this quote really inspiring wallah, the simple message is to take life one day at a time. Don’t think beyond the 24hrs in front of you, let tomorrow come before you can worry about it. 

And i take ‘where you want to be’ as in Allah’s good books I.e Jannah so I try to live everyday in obedience to Allah. Because that is the ultimate goal. It would really be a shame to go through this unpleasant life and end up in a place far worse; Jahannam. 
I’ve realised that this life is really uncool, for everybody, even if you have a seemingly perfect life, you might have a relative or a friend that is in a dilemma and you’d be obliged to feel down too. Everyone is fighting one battle or the other in this life; the muslim and non-muslim, the female and the male, the pious and the wrong-doers,etc So it’s better to live a life of obedience to Allah so that you can rest in the eternal life to come.

I guess if I can go through the hurdles of life, the tests, the calamities, the delights, the pain and the heartbreaks and still remain in Allah’s good books, then I would have been successful.

In conclusion, I’d like to advice myself and whoever is reading this; 
Live! Don’t just exist. 
Go out and do something great! Don’t just sit around waiting for life to get you. 
Enjoy the beautiful moments in life because life has a lot of such to offer, don’t ruin your present happiness by predicting future sadness. 
Enjoy the fun times with your family and don’t keep thinking that it’ll end soon; 
dance at your wedding and don’t be gloomy because your husband might change in the long run; 
shower your children with love and care and don’t keep anticipating whether they’ll turn out good or not. This life is not perfect; it’s not perfectly good and it’s not perfectly bad. 
Don’t overthink things. Your life has already been planned by Allah.
And when your test arrive, look to the Qur’an and Sunnah for ways to deal with it.
Don’t let your tests make you go further away from Allah, rather let them bring you closer to Him. 
And finally, don’t loose sight of the ultimate goal! 
Keep your eyes on the prize; Jannah!

Umm Saabir

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★The Purpose Of Life

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In the name of Allah, The Most Beneficial, The Most Merciful.

THE PURPOSE OF LIFE

What is the purpose of this life? Why were we created? What is the reason for our existence?

Sadly these are questions that most people shy away from and instead prefer to do what everyone else is doing; ‘make money and maximise pleasure’. As muslims, it is of utmost importance we remind ourselves daily the purpose of our lives in order not to stray off the right path.

As we already know, we didn’t accidentally appear on planet earth; we were created by God, The Almighty. But it is the reason of being created that most people are not aware of. Though Our Creator never left us to find it out ourselves, it has always been there in the manual He gave us for this life.

The Quran says:
And I (Allah) created not the jinns and humans except they should worship Me (Alone) (Q51:56)

“Who (Allah) has created death & life, that He may test you which of you is best in deed”. (Q67:2)

So it is that and nothing else. Our only purpose of been on this earth is to worship God i.e strive with everything we have & through every means to come closer to Him. And by His infinite mercy, He promised to reward us according to how we worship Him, in the next life.

“Allah has promised those who believe and do deeds of righteousness, that for them there is forgiveness and a great reward (i.e. Paradise). And (as for) those who disbelieve and reject our communications, these are the companions of the hell-fire”. (Q5:9-10)

One may ask how then should we act accordingly? How do we spend our entire lives worshipping God? “By dedicating our whole life in servitude to Him”. This means we would not do except that which pleases Him, and we are quick to repent if perchance we do the opposite.

In these times, what we see of how muslims spend their lives is indeed very troubling. Many waste their lives in sins, all in the name of maximising pleasure; watching & listening to that which is displeasing to Allah for endless hours, chasing after women and wealth through all sort of bad means, copying the west in every haram thing they do, following every low evil desire their soul whispers to them…to mention but a few.
And God has said:

“Does man think that he will be left suda [neglected without being punished or rewarded for the obligatory duties enjoined by his Lord on Him]?” (Q75:36)

“Or do those who earn evil deeds think that We shall hold them equal with those who believe and do righteous good deeds, in their present life and after their death? Worst is the judgement that they make.”  (Q45:21)

What would they miss if they follow Gods commandment? Do they fear hardships? Then surely they are not conversant with their life manual because God has made it clear that this life will be filled with both good and bad “Everyone is going to taste death, and We shall make a trial of you with evil and with good, and to Us you will be returned.”(Q31:35) And as believers, our hardships are only ladders that take us closer to God by reminding us of our need for Him. How regretful would they be if they end up being asked this question on the day of no pardoning?

“Did you think We  had created you in play (without any purpose) and that you will not be brought back to Us.?” (Q23:115)

So I ask myself first and the one reading this right now; “what will we lose if we spend a lifetime studying our glorious Quran? Our God sent message that tells us about all that is in this world and beyond. “What will we miss out on if we spend the rest of our lives seeking to come closer to God through every means in our homes & in our work places?” “Aren’t we aware of that which awaits us?” Paradise; the land of everlating pleasure!

Surely, there is an ardent need for reminding ourselves daily our purpose of life, for it is only by doing that, we would not fall prey to this deceiving world. And we ask Allah earnestly to keep us firm on the straight path for the rest of our lives, ameen.

“And this life of the world is only amusement and play! Verily, the home of the Hereafter, that is the life indeed (i.e. the eternal life that will never end), if they but knew”.(Q29:65)

By Umm muh’d
http://www.themuslimh.wordpress.com

☆Qur’anic Gems☆ Day 11. Ramadhan 1435.

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Surah Yunus, Verse 55:
أَلَا إِنَّ لِلَّهِ مَا فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ أَلَا إِنَّ وَعْدَ اللَّهِ حَقٌّ وَلَٰكِنَّ أَكْثَرَهُمْ لَا يَعْلَمُونَ

No doubt, surely, all that is in the heavens and the earth belongs to Allah. No doubt, surely, Allah’s Promise is true. But most of them know not.

This is a reminder to us all, a wake up call, that surely whatever Allah (swt) promised, in His book or through His messenger (saw) is true & must happen. Indeed, the death, the resurrection, the reward & the punishment are all genuine. So why are we still distracted & heedless of Allah’s commands?
“O mankind! Verily, the Promise of Allah is true. So let not this present life deceive you,& let not the chief deceiver (Satan)deceive you about Allah.”(35:5)

The sister goes out hijabless, another persists in dealing in interest, another wears a tush (big ribbon) while the other engage in an intimate relationship with the opposite sex, to mention but a few. All these are actions that Allah & His messenger promised will lead to hell fire, subhanallah, but we are we still heedless? Don’t we belief in the promise of Hell & paradise anymore?

The deception of this life is such that it seems as if it will last forever while the akhirah is so far fetched. Subhanallah, when asked about this life when resurrected, the sinners will think they only spent a day or part of a day? (23:113-114). Then who is more foolish than the one who worked only for this world? & indeed satans comes in the forms of deceptive thoughts about Allah as we have seen from “Qur’anic Gems 2”.

Then verily, the wisest of us all is he who is not deceived by this life or satan, but rather heeds Allah warning (35:5). Let’s make this ramadan count by seeking protection from the deception of those two, thereby turning our lives around.

We implore Allah to gift us with more from His ‘Gems’ & make us of those who live with the whole Qur’an, in heart & mind, ameen.

Let Your Heart Live

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By Umm Luqman {a deensister}

Bismillahir-Rahmaanir-Raheem
“O you who have believed, respond to Allah and to the messenger when he calls you to that which gives you life. And know that Allah intervenes between a man and his heart and that to Him you will be gathered”(Anfaal:24).

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This ayah, I love. ”..when he calls you to that which gives you life’…is a survival tip we all need. I mean, we all know death..but what if we are dying without even knowing? Dying from the inside, slowly, steadily…sadly.
So, the tip is response, ‘we hear and we obey’. We respond by doing as we are told. So let Him intervene between you and your heart which is unavoidably inclined to evil (as stated in the Qur’aan;12:53), and that which kills it. Let the only One who knows what is best for it take care of it. Be flexible, open-minded, a free-spirit, let your heart LIVE.