Deensister Tip

As you explore different aspects of yourself, as you dream about the future and plan your life ahead, whether you hope to further your studies, work, marry and have kids, or a combination of them all (or even none of the above!), remember that first and foremost, you are a muslimah with an obligation to your Lord above all others.

(princess diaries~Umm khadijah and Safiyyah Vanker)

From Sisters Magazine.

Of the Signs of Qiyaama

Anas Ibn Malik said: shall i not relate to you a Hadith I heard from the Messenger of Allah {peace and blessings be upon him}, for none shall come after me to relate it to you from those who heard it first hand: “From the signs of the Hour is for knowledge to be removed, for ignorance to become widespread, for fornication to become rampant, for alcohol to be imbibed, for men to perish and women to stay, until the point that for each fifty women there will be one male guardian.” (Sahih Bukhari 1/178 and Sahih Muslim 16/221)

Source; Gems and Jewels [Abul-Malik Mujahid]

“The believer is a mirror to the believer.”

This hadith of the prophet (saw) teaches us a lot about ourselves and each other. The prophet (saw) gives us metaphors so that we can reflect.

First, in order for anyone to improve, they’d have to see their reflection. Unless you see where your deficiences are, you won’t be able to fix them. Getting another perspective from another brother or sister can serve as this reflection to show what needs to be improved.

Second, when you see a flaw in your reflection in the mirror, you don’t reach for the mirror to fix it, you reach for yourself. When someone gives you advice, don’t try to react to them with the advice-concentrate on what’s being told to you and realize it’s being said for a reason.

Third, the mirror reflects truthfully. Doesn’t hide anything, nor does it exaggerate. An honest and accurate reflection, free from anger or emotion, is a key component to improving yourself.

Fourth, when you see the reflection and there are flaws, don’t punch the mirror. Also, the mirror doesn’t smack a person in the face. The delivery and acceptance of the advice should be in a manner that has a manners, is respectful, and is sincere.

Lastly, when the person improves and fixes their issues, the mirror reflects the changes and lets go of the previous image. Mirrors can’t hold grudges, they move on and show the latest reflection.

{By Abdelrahman Murphy on }

So, get a mirror before ramadan. Seek a reflection, take note of your deficiences and flaws. What you may need to improve and take them with you through ramadan. Let ramadan be your moment of change, your moment of transition. So aim to leave ramadan with as a better person and be sure that your mirror is able to reflect the new you.

Happy ramadan prep-ing!


The Poet And The King

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As-salamu `alaykum wa rahmatullah

A lighthearted piece (not sure if it’s an actual incident in history, or just a story)…

ذهب رجل إلى الملك وأنشده شعرا
قال الملك: أحسنت.. اطلب ما تشاء
“A man went to the king (of his land) and recited some poetry to him. The king said, “Very good! Now ask for whatever you wish.”

قال: هل تعطيني ؟
قال: أجل
The man said, “And will you give that?”
He said, “Yes.”

قال : أريد أن تعطيني دنانير بمقدار الرقم الذي أذكره في الآيات القرآنية
قال: لك ذلك
He said, “I want you to give me a Dinar specifically equal to the number that I mention within the Qur’anic verses.”
He said, “You shall have that.”

قال الشاعر
قال الله تعالى : “إلهكم إله واحد
فأعطاه دينارا
The poet said, “Allah the Most High has said, “And your god is one God…” [2:163]
So he gave him…

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Things you could do when on the ‘break’

Assalaamu aliakum wa rahmatullah, its less than two weeks until ramadan. For some sisters, even though we prepare so hard to reap the blessings and virtues of Ramadan, we always have that ‘dip’ when we’re off and cut back on most ibaadah.

For this, we have below a few things you could do to keep the vibe on even when you’re ‘off’

1) Read a translation of the Quran and/or a tafsir book. This will help you remain connected with the Quran

2) Make du’ah and spend time engaging in zikr

3) Listen to the Qur’an or recite from memory or read from a soft copy

4) Read islamic books

5) Attend religious classes

6) Increase your da’awah activities

7) Give charity and think of ways of encouraging others to give charity

8) Offer to baby-sit for someone who has children and may want to go for taraweeh

9) Offer to help out with taking care of children at the mosque while others pray

10) Help around at home with the intention of gaining thawab

11) Try to find out about islamic activities going on in your local area and try and get involved with organising them

12) Try and feed as many fasting people as you can-go to places that organise mass iftars and offer to help or give sadaqah towards it.

   Remember, its the intention that matters most.

Culled from; ameena’s ramadan diary


Polytheism and its various manifestations

Shirk basically is polytheism, i.e., the worhip of others along with Allah. It also implies attributing divine attributes to any other besides Allah. It particularly implies associating partners in worship with Allah or believing that the source of power, harm or blessings is from others besides Allah.

1) Ash-Shirk al-Akbar, i.e. major shirk
2) Ash-Shirk al-Asgar, i.e. minor shirk
3) Ash-Shirk al-Khafii, i.e. inconspicuous shirk.

Manifesations; 1) Ash-Shirk al-Akbar (the major shirk): the major and serious polytheistic form, has four aspects:
a. Shirk ad-Du’a, i.e. invocation. This aspect implies invoking, supplicating or praying to other dieties besides Allah.
Almighty Allah says:
“And when they embark on ships they invoke Allah, making their faith pure for Him only, but when He brings them safely to land, behold, thy give a share of their worship to others.” (Q29:65)

b. Shirk an-Niyyah wal-Iradah wal-Qasd. This aspect implies intentions, purpose and determination in acts of worship or religious deeds, not for the sake of Allah but directed towards other deities.

Almighty Allah says:
“Whosoever desires the life of the world and its glitter, to them we shall pay in full (the wages of) their deeds therein, and they will have no dimunition therein. They are those for whom there is nothing in the hereafter but fire; and vain are the deeds they did therein. And of no effect is that which they used to do.” (Q11:15,16)

c. Shirk at-Ta’ah. This aspect implies rendering obedience to any authourity against the order of Allah.

Almighty Allah says:
“They(jews and christians) took their Rabbis and their monks to be their lords besides Allah (by obeying them in things which they made lawful or unlawful according to their own desires without being ordered by Allah), and (they also took as their Lord) Messiah, son of Maryam (Mary), while they (jews and christians) were commanded[(in the torah and the gospel) to worship none but one illah (God i.e., Allah), la ilaha illa Huwa (none has the right to be worshipped but He). Glorified is He (far above is He) from having the partners they associate (with him).” (Q9:31)

c. Shirk al-Muhabbah. This implies showing the love which is due to Allah alone to others than Him.

Almighty Allah says:
“and of mankind are some who take (for worship) others besides Allah as rivals (to Allah). They love them as they should love Allah. But those who believe, love Allah more. If only thos who do wrong could see, when they will see the torment, that all power belongs to Allah and that Allah is severe in punishment.” (Q2:165)

To be continued in another post in shaa Allah


Ramadan Guilt Trip

Do you know the Ramadan guilt trip?

This is where you start off Ramadan with all the good intentions in the world that you’ll truly make this Ramadan special and make the most of it, only to reach the end of Ramadan and you haven’t done much at all. And you promise yourself at the end of Ramadan thatnext Ramadan, you’d do better.This goes on year after year.

You know, Einstein has a great saying in these situations. He says that the definition of insanity is “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”You cannot improve your Ramadan if you keep tackling it the same way. You need to develop the necessary skills to make the most of Ramadan spiritually, physically and socially.Where can you learn such skills? I’ll tell you this Friday in sha Allah ;).

In the meantime, I want to hear from you what you think are the skills one must develop to live a Productive Ramadan. Reply to this email and share your thoughts.

Abu Productive

P.S. Stay tuned for my next email if you want to learn how to LIVEa Productive Ramadan.

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