☆20 Golden Rules of Silence☆


“The person who keeps silent has attained salvation” (Tirmidhi, Ahmad).

“Verily, a slave says a word that is pleasing to Allah, and though he doesn’t give it any importance, Allah raises him
( a number of degrees because of it). And verily a slave says a word that Allah is angry with, and though he doesn’t give it any importance (when he says it), he will fall because of it in the hell fire”
[ Bukharee (6478), Ahmad (8206) and maalik (1849)]

Below are twenty golden rules of silence that should serve as our everyday guide in shaa Allah;

1. Be silent in the heat of anger.

2. Be silent when you don’t have all the facts.

3. Be silent when you haven’t verified the story.

4. Be silent if your words will offend a weaker person.

5. Be silent when it is time to listen.

6. Be silent when you are tempted to make light of holy things.

7. Be silent when you are tempted to joke about sin.

8. Be silent if you would be ashamed of your words later.

9. Be silent if your words would convey the wrong impression.

10. Be silent if the issue is none of your business.

11. Be silent when you are tempted to tell an outright lie.

12. Be silent if your words will damage someone else’s reputation.

13. Be silent if your words will damage a friendship.

14. Be silent when you are about to use vulgar words.

15. Be silent if you can’t say it without screaming it.

16. Be silent if your words will be a poor reflection of God on you.

17. Be silent if you may have to eat your words later.

18. Be silent if you have already said it more than one time.

19. Be silent when you are tempted to flatter a wicked person.

20. Be silent when you are supposed to be working instead.


Rajab has arrived…


All praise is for the ONE who has spared our lives to see this day. We acknowledge HIS favor and we acknowledge our incapacity and ALL praise is for HIM. 

We have entered into the month of Rajab, the first of the three of great virtue. The month of Allah. 

Hassan Al Basri (Rahimahullah) mentioned in his Jami saghir that the prophet (alaihis salaatu was salaam) said,

“Rajab is the month of Allah. Sha’ban is my month and Ramadan is the month of my Ummah.”

Rajab is one of the four sacred months of the year. Along with Muharram, Dhul Qa’ida and Dhul Hijjah, it is a month in which transgression and sin is worse than at other times. Allah says,

“Verily, the number of months with Allah is twelve months (in a year), so was it ordained by Allah on the Day HE created the heavens and the earth; of them, four are sacred. That is the right religion, so wrong not yourselves therein.” (Q9:36)

Allah ends this verse with the admonishment “so wrong not yourselves therein” of avoiding sin and transgression during these months. 

Although this month is sacred, singling it out for fasting and restricting other forms of ibaada (worship) to its days or nights (as commonly practiced) is not from the sunnah. The sanctity is that sin is avoided and that fighting is prohibited rather than attaching specific acts of worship (such as fasting during its days and standing in prayer through its nights) to it. 

Ibn Qayyim (Rahimahullah) said:

“Every hadeeth which mentions fasting in Rajab and praying during some of its nights is false and fabricated.”

[from Al Manaar Al Muneef, P. 96]

Also, when Ibn Uthaymeen (Rahimahullah) was asked about fasting on the 27th of Rajab and spending that night in prayer, he said:

“Fasting on the twenty seventh of Rajab mad spending that night in prayer is a bid’ah (innovation), and every bid’ah is a going astray.”

[Majmoo’ Fataawa Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 20/440.]

It is important to bear in mind that though one may fast in this month, there is no evidence that the fasting is of a greater virtue than fasting at other times. And this applies to standing in one or some of its nights in prayer. 

What is expected of us in this month is to refrain our selves from and guard against sin and transgression as it is a month that has been declared sacred by Allah and in so doing, preparing for and asking Allah to spare our lives till Ramadan. Abu Nu’aim mentioned from Ana’s Ibn Malik (RadiyAllahu anhu) that the prophet (alaihis salaatu was salaam) used to make this dua when Rajab came in:

“Allahumma baarik Lana fi Rajab wa Sha’ban wa balligna Ramadan.” 

[O Allah, bless us in (the month of) Rajab and in (in the month of) Sha’ban and let us reach (the month of) Ramadan.]

Increasing good deeds in this month and avoiding sin helps to set the pace for the month of Ramadan. As said by AbuBakr Warraq: 

“Rajab is a month of cultivation, Sha’ban is the month of irrigating the fields, and the month of Ramadhan is a month of reaping and harvesting.”

May Allah make us of those who honor this month of HIS by avoiding transgression, bless us in it and let us reach Ramadan. Ameen. 

Written By Deensister

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