Category Archives: Deen Reminders

The Last Sermon

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The Last Sermon

🖋 O people, lend me an attentive ear, i know not whether after this year, i shall ever be amongst you again. Therefore listen to what i am saying to you carefully and take these words to those who could not be present here.

🖋 O people, just as you regard this month, this day, this city as sacred, so regard the life and property of every muslim as a sacred trust. Return the goods entrusted to you to their rightful owners, hurt no one and no one may hurt you.

🖋 Remeber that you will indeed meet your Lord, and that He will indeed reckon your deeds. Allah has forbidden you to take usury (interest), therefore all interest obligations shall henceforth be waived.

🖋 Beware of satan, for the safety of your religion. He has lost hope that he will ever be able to lead you astray in big things, so beware of following him in the small things.

🖋 O people, it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your women but they also have rights over you. If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed & clothed in kindness.

🖋 Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and commited helpers. And it is your right that they do not make friends with anyone of whom you do not approve of, as well as never commit adultery.

🖋 O people, listen to me in earnest. Worship Allah, say your five daily prayers, fast during the month of ramadan, and give your wealth in zakah, perform hajj if you can afford to.

🖋 You know that every muslim is the brother of another muslim. You are all equal. Nobody has superiority over the other except by piety and goodness.

🖋 Remember one day you will appear before Allah and answer for your deeds. So beware, do not stray from the path of righteousness after i am gone.

🖋 O people, no prophet or apostle will come after me, no new faith will be born. Reason well, therefore, O people, and understand my words, which i convey to you.

🖋 I leave behind me two things, the Qur’an and my example (Sunnah) and if you follow this you would never go astray.

🖋 All those who listened to me shall pass on my words to other and those to other again, and may the last ones understand my words better than people those who listen to me directly.

🖋 Be my witness O Allah that i have conveyed your message to the people.

9th Dhul hijjah 10AH

Uranah valley of mount Arafah

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Remembrance of Allah

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Remembrance of Allah

Imaam ibn Al Qayyim—may Allah have mercy upon him—said:

He went to his Shaykh—Shaykh of Islam ibn Taymiyyah—because he wanted to speak to him about something, or to take knowledge from him. So he found him siting remembering Allah. He was too afraid to speak to him until he finished from the remembrance of Allah. Then he turned to him and said: How long have you been here? He said: Since such and such a time and I am waiting. Thus the Shaykh (Ibn Taymiyyah) may Allah have mercy upon him said: ‘This is my breakfast, if I do not take my breakfast, I would not have strength to work that day’.

Thus his portion of remembrance was his breakfast which gave him strength to deal with work during his day; may Allah have mercy upon him. And this is how the Muslim is.

For this reason he (Ibn Taymiyyah) said:

‘Verily to Allah belongs a paradise in this world, whoever does not enter it, will not enter the paradise of the next life’.

Meaning the remembrance of Allah سبحانه وتعالى, it is paradise in this world because it relaxes the Muslim and soothes him and expands his chest, and removes his anxiety and repels the devils away from him. Thus it is a paradise. He enjoys it more than he enjoys food, drink, and desires. For this reason, you will find if a person does not say his portion of remembrance during the first part of the day or the first part of the morning, or the first part of the evening, you find him dejected and disconsolate. But if he adheres to his portion of remembrance in the beginning of the morning or the first part of the evening, you find him at ease with his chest expanded.

For this reason, the remembrance of Allah always and forever accompanies the Muslim; in the morning, in the evening, at the time of sleep, when he is aroused during the night or while sleeping, and when he awakens. The remembrance of Allah is always upon the heart and tongue of the Muslim. He is never able to do without it.

This is in contrast to the hypocrite, disbeliever, pagan and sinner. Their pleasure and enjoyment is in music, instruments, plays, skits and comedies. They are not familiar with the remembrance of Allah. For this reason He said concerning the hypocrite:

وَلاَ يَذْكُرُونَ اللَّهَ إِلاَّ قَلِيلاً

And they do not remember Allah but little. (Soorah An Nisa 4:142)

They are not put at ease by the remembrance of Allah; they are only put at ease by the remembrance of the devil. We ask Allah for safety and security.

The remembrance of Allah connects the person to his Lord; as it comes in the hadith Qudsi. Allah سبحانه says:

أنا مع عبدي إن ذكرني في نفسه ذكرته في نفسي، وإن ذكرني في ملأ ذكرته في ملأ خير منه

I am with My slave, if he mentions me to himself I mention him to Myself, and if he mentions Me in a gathering I mention him in a gathering better than his gathering.

Meaning: a gathering of Angels.

And Allah جل وعلا said:

فَاذْكُرُونِي أَذْكُرْكُمْ وَاشْكُرُواْ لِي وَلاَ تَكْفُرُونِ

Therefore remember Me. I will remember you, and be grateful to Me and never be ungrateful to Me. (Soorah Al Baqarah 2:152)

Thus how can the person do without the remembrance of Allah, that which brings him near to Allah, and grants him the favor of Allah mentioning him and lauding him in the highest gathering?! These are tremendous benefits from the remembrance of Allah عز وجل.

The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم gave the resemblance of the person and the remembrance of Allah, to the person whose enemies came out in quick pursuit of him, desiring to kill him. Thus he took shelter in a strong fortress, and thus he was saved from them. He said: ‘Likewise is the remembrance of Allah, it is the fortress of the Muslim.’

This is what protects him from his enemies, from the devils of man and jinn; thus it is necessary for the Muslim to adhere to the remembrance of Allah with his tongue, his heart, and his actions.

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His Nourishment was the remembrance of Allah – A reminder explained by Shaykh Fawzan

Link : https://youtu.be/_DvM1nYyqec

*Who is a Productive Muslimah?*

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*Who is a Productive Muslimah?*

🎀 A Productive Muslimah is one who takes pride in being a muslimah. She is focused on preaching Islam through her own practice. She loves Allah, her focus in life is Allah’s pleasure, and she loves to do things that bring her closer to her Creator and Sustainer.

🎀 Her main concern is her success in the akhirah, thus she makes the most of this world as a means to achieve that success. Her iman is reflected through her outward appearance and mannerism, which is a complete submission to the shari’ah.

🎀 She lives a simple life that takes care of her needs and instead of going after her wants. She has a heart free of love for this world, free of love of leadership, free of bad opinions about others, free of grudges, malice, rancour, greed, envy and all other evil traits.

🎀 Her tongue is not engaged in haram or vain talk, she thinks before she speaks, she controls her anger. She is a humble person; her goal is to be a better person every day of her life. She doesn’t hesitate to admit when she is wrong and is quick in correcting her wrongs/faults when she sees them.

🎀 She is neither stingy nor a spendthrift, but she loves to spend generously for those things which will bring her closer to her Creator. Her heart is clean and pure, filled with love and reverence for her Creator: love, compassion, kindness, and forgiveness for the creation.

🎀 She is full of gratitude for every single blessing, especially for the spiritual blessings, and she is always striving to progress spiritually. She has complete trust and reliance in Allah, and when she goes through difficult or disliked situations, she knows there is good in it for her – both in this world and the next.

🎀 She loves to be in the company of saliheen (righteous slaves of Allah). She strives to keep her promises and commitments. She is soft spoken but firm in her words and works. She always strives to be a part of solution and not a part of problem.

🎀 She shows beautiful patience during difficult times, for she realizes things could have been worse, and that these are tests from Allah Who can be called upon and He will answer the duas. And she also has the certainty that, “Indeed, with hardship, there will be ease” [Qur’an: Chapter 94, Verse 6].

🎀 She is a living proof of what a muslimah should be, and all this with the utmost sincerity to please her Almighty Lord ♡

May Allah (swt) make each one of us a productive muslimah, ameen thumma ameen.

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Enter Into islam Wholeheartedly

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Enter Into islam Wholeheartedly

Deen Reminder: Enter Into islam Wholeheartedly

Living in Nigeria, a country colonised by the western people, it is right to say we have and still are, assimilating some customs and practices of the west. These are customs & practices that we grew up to know and which the society has instilled in us to be morally correct. Futhermore, our individual traditional cultures also has its own set of rules & norms which we are expected to adhere to by societal standards.

Many of these unfortunately are not considered right in our deen and so unknowingly or unknowingly we fall into many sins, which subhanallah, only aids our detriment in this world and the hereafter. Thus our islam tends to be practiced half-heartedly, with the other half filled with societal norms.

Allah (saw) said in the Qur’an:

” O you who believe! Enter into Islam wholeheartedly (by obeying all the rules and regulations of the Islamic religion) and follow not the footsteps of Shaitan (Satan). Verily! He is to you a plain enemy.”

(Q2:208).

“Allah commands His servants who believe in Him & have faith in His messenger to implement all of islam’s law and legislation, to adhere to all of its commandments as much as they can and to refrain from its prohibitions” [Tafseer ibn khatir]

Practicing half-heartedly is usually evident when it becomes difficult to differentiate between a muslim and a non-muslim with regards to their attire and morals.

We shouldn’t be confused with regards to who we are. Our first identity is that of islam before that of being a Nigerian or belonging to a traditional culture.

Allah (swt) has chosen us and guided us to the best religion which has the noblest of teachings. We should therefore as Muslims, try to always submit to the way of Allah and His messenger (saw) to the best of our ability.

Practices like women wearing revealing perfumed clothing, immodesty between the two genders in universities and work places, white and black lying, treachery, dealing in interest, oppressing those below us, speaking rudely or indecently, not enjoining the good and forbidding the bad, favouring western over islamic education, watching and listening to haram are all practices common amongst muslims today.

A muslim lady is she who is identified by her proper islamic dressing and the man as well. Most importantly, their moral conduct should also be that which is in accordance to their religion.

“Verily, how excellent is the teaching which He (Allah) gives you! Truly, Allah is Ever All-Hearer, All-Seer”. (Q4:38)

But this is only possible if we have adequate knowledge of our deen as we can only practice what we know. And “*seeking of knowledge is obligatory upon every Muslim*.” -(Al-Tirmidhi, Hadith 74) signifying there’s no excuse to follow the ways of our society blindly.

” And if you obey most of those on earth, they will mislead you far away from Allah’s Path. They follow nothing but conjectures, and they do nothing but lie”. [Q6:116].

Of paramount importance is the mentioning of some loopholes that one usually comes across on this path of embracing islam wholeheartedly and how we can prevent ourselves from falling into them.

Firstly, the khutbah of shaitan; “you don’t have to do all that, chill, Allah is the Most Merciful & Forgiving”. We only need to use our common sense to see that this is a very faulty way of thinking. For if that was the case, what then would be the reason for Allah (swt) creating heaven and hell and and making certain deeds obligatory and others completely prohibited?

The tabi’ee Al -Hasan (ra) once remarked: “*There are some people whose hope to be forgiven made them heedless until they departed from this life having no rewards.  If you asked one of them about his delay in repentance, he would say: ” I have positive thoughts about my Lord (I.e he will not punish me). How he lies! If he thought positively about his Lord he would act accordingly (I.e perform good deeds) and then he recited the saying of Allah: “And that thought of yours which you thought about your Lord has brought you to destruction, and you have become (this day) of those utterly lost!*” (Q41:23)

Secondly, and most frequently occuring is the people loophole. This entails people mocking, abusing or even denying those people doing the right thing. But we have to know that Allah (swt), creator of  mankind will be sufficient for us and will protect us from them.

“Is not Allah  sufficient for His slave” [Q39:36].

“If Allah helps you, none can overcome you; and if He forsakes you, who is there after Him that can help you? And in Allah (Alone) let believers put their trust. [Q3:160]. So should we not then trust Him?

The third and final loophole is the one called desires. Atimes its not lack of knowledge, shaitan or people that make us fall, it’s our base desires. We enjoy doing some of these wrongs and as such becomes most difficult for us to stop.

And In this regard, our Creator and the desire itself has said: As for those who fear the standing before their Lord and restrained themselves from lowly base desires, then indeed paradise shall be their abode” [Q79:40-41]. He (swt) knows of these desires and informs us that paradise is for those that always try to supress such desires.

Conclusively, embracing islam wholeheartedly entails living the islamic lifestyle and this will no doubt move our society forward and will bring about solutions to our societal problems as well. Such a lifestyle instills righteousness, trufulness, humbleness in people and most importantly closes all roads to vices before they even occur.

And it is Allah (swt) we ask to make of those who embrace His deen wholeheartedly, and to grant us His paradise by His mercy, ameen thumma ameen.

♡ *The Five Heart Corrupters* (2/2)

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♡ *The Five Heart Corrupters* (2/2)

💞 The Third Corrupter: Attachment to Other Than Allaah

This is the absolute worst of the corrupters. There is none more harmful than attachment to other than Allaah, nor more able to cut the heart off from Allaah, and block it from what is beneficial to it and what will bring it true happiness.

If a heart becomes attached to other than Allaah, Allaah makes him dependent on what he is attached to and he will be betrayed by it and he will not achieve what he was seeking from Allaah as long as he is attached to other than Allaah and turning to others besides Him.

Thus, he will not obtain what he sought from Allaah nor will what he was attached to besides Allaah bring it for him:

“And they have taken gods besides Allaah that they might give them honor, power and glory. No. But they will deny their worship of them and become opponents to them.” (Soorah Maryam, 19: 81-2)

“And they have taken besides Allaah gods hoping that they might be helped. They cannot help them but they will be brought forward as a troop against them.” (Soorah Yaaseen, 36: 74-5)

The person most betrayed is the one who is attached to other than Allaah. For what he missed of benefits, happiness and success is far greater that what he obtained from those to whom he was attached, and it is exposed to disappearance and loss.

The example of one attached to other than Allaah is like one seeking shade from the heat and cold in a spider’s web (home), the weakest [wahn] of homes.

In general, the basis of idolatry and the foundation on which it is built is: Attachment to other than Allaah, and for the one who does so there is condemnation and betrayal, as stated by the Almighty:

“Do not set up with Allaah any other god or you will sit down reproved and forsaken.” (Soorah al-Israa, 17: 22)

💞The Fourth Corrupter: Food

The corrupter of the heart is of two types:

One of them is that which corrupts it by itself like the forbidden which are two types:

· Forbidden relative to Allaah like carcasses, blood, pork, wild animals that kill with the canine tooth and birds that kill with claws. · Forbidden relative to Allaah’s slaves, like stolen, maghsoob, kidnapped, and what is taken without the permission of the owner either by force or by shame and blame.

The second is which corrupts as a result of it’s quantity and its exceeding limits, like wasting permissible things, excessive filling of the stomach s.t.c

For it makes acts of obedience burdensome and it preoccupies the heart… chasing after belly desires and trying for it until it captures it.

If it captures it he becomes preoccupied with following its activities and protecting the self from its harm, and being hurt by its weight, and it strengthens the elements of desire.

It paves paths for Satan and expands them, for he moves among humans in the veins. Fasting narrows its passages and closes his paths and filling the stomach paves paths and widens them. Whoever eats a lot, drinks a lot, sleeps a lot and loses a lot. In the famous hadeeth:

“No human fills a container worse than his stomach. Two small portions of food to straighten his backbone are sufficient. If he must [eat more], then let it be a third for food, a third for drink and a third for breathing.” (Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2380)

💞 The Fifth Corrupter: Excessive Sleep

It deadens the heart, makes the body heavy, wastes time, and gives birth to a lot of negligence and laziness. Some [types] of sleep are extremely disliked, and some are harmful to the body.

The best form of sleep is what takes place when there exists a strong need for it. Sleep at the beginning of the night is more praiseworthy and beneficial than at the end of the night, and sleep in the middle of the day is better than at its beginning and end.

And among the disliked aspects, according to the scholars, is sleep between Salaatul-Fajr and sunrise, for it is a time of special reward.

For that time escape, among the saalikeen (travellers), is a great loss. Even if they traveled all night they would not allow sitting down from the journey at that time until sunrise, because it is the beginning of the day and its key.

[It is] the time for provisions to be sent down [and distributed], the time for obtaining portions and the descent of blessings, and from it the day is established. The ruling regarding the whole day is [based on] the ruling regarding that portion. One should only sleep at that time if one is forced.

In general, the most balanced/moderate (a’dal) and beneficial form of sleep, is sleep during the first portion of the night and the last sixth of the night.

According to medical practitioners, the length of the most balanced form of sleep should be eight hours. In their view, more [sleep] than that or less than that will cause deviation in one’s natural disposition according to it.

As excessive sleep causes these defects, putting aside sleep and abandoning it causes other major defects like bad temperament, dry personality and a warped disposition, as well as drying up of the humors which aid in understanding and work, and it leads to illnesses which will prevent one afflicted from benefiting either with his heart or body.

Existence [of the world] was established on the basis of justice (‘adl), so whoever adheres to moderation has grabbed his portion of the confluence of good.

♡ The Five Heart Corrupters (1/2)

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♡ The Five Heart Corrupters (1/2)

Know that the heart is on a journey to Allaah, Most Great and Glorious, and to the world of the Hereafter, and [that it is able to] discover the path of truth as well as the faults of the soul and of deeds.

Its path is traversed with its light, life, strength, health, determination (‘azm), the soundness of its hearing and sight, as well as the absence of distractions and impediments from it.

These five (corrupters) extinguish its light, distort its vision, muffle its hearing, if they do not deafen it, dumbfound it, and weaken its powers/strengths altogether.

They weaken its health, slacken its drive, halt its decisions, and reverse it (sending it backwards). And if one does not sense it, his heart is dead – as wounding a corpse does not inflict pain.

For there is no pleasure, sweetness, ibtihaaj, or perfection except by knowing Allaah and loving Him, peace in remembrance of Him, happiness and ibtihaaj in being close to Him and desiring to meet Him.[1] This is (the heart’s) early paradise.

“Indeed there is a paradise in this world, whoever doesn’t enter it will not enter the paradise of the Hereafter.” (Ibn Taymiyyah rahimahullah)

And these five matters cut [the person] off from this, block the heart from it, impede its journey, cause sicknesses and defects for which, if the sick person does not realize it, [destruction] is feared.

🔪The First Corrupter: Frequent Socializing

The effect of frequent socializing is that it fills the heart with the smoke of anfaas of humans until it becomes black, [3] causing it to be scattered, torn apart, worried, upset, and weak. It causes it to carry what it is unable to from mu’nat evil companions and waste what is beneficial for it, by becoming too preoccupied with evil companions and their matters to attend to what is beneficial.

(The heart instead is busy with) scattered thoughts in the valleys of their requests and wishes. So what remains of it for Allaah and the life to come?

How many adversities has mixing with people brought and how many blessings has it repelled? [How many] trials has it caused and opportunities disabled, raziyyah caused to fall in baliyyah. Is aafah the downfall of people caused by other than people?

Did Aboo Taalib at the time of his death have anything more harmful to himself than evil companions? They remained with him until they blocked him from the one statement that would have guaranteed him eternal pleasure.

This socializing based on love in this world, the fulfillment of desires from others, will change into enmity when the realities become manifest, and some of those who socialized will bite their hands in regret as the Almighty said: “On the Day when the sinner will bite his hands saying:

If only I had taken a way to the Messenger. Woe to me, if only I hadn’t taken so-and-so as a close friend. He misguided me from the Remembrance after it came to me.’ And Satan is forever a deserter of humans in their time of need.” (Soorah al-Furqaan, 25: 27-9)

He also said:

“Close friends on that Day will be foes of each other except the God-fearing.” (Soorah Az-Zukhruf, 43: 67)

And He said:

“Indeed what you have taken besides Allaah is only idols. Love between you is only in this world, but on the Day of Resurrection you will disown each other and curse each other and your abode will be the fire and you will have no helpers.” (Soorah al-‘Ankaboot)

That is the state of those who share goals, they love each other as long they help each other to achieve it.

But if the goal is cut off, it is followed by regret, sadness and pain, and that love will change into hatred, cursing, blame of one another, and the goals change into unhappiness and punishment, as is witnessed in this life in the states of those who share in failure, if they are caught and punished.

Each supporter of falsehood, friendly regarding it, their mutual love must eventually change into hatred and enmity.

The useful defining principle in the matter of socializing is that one should mix with people in [acts of] goodness like Jumu’ah, the ‘Eeds, Hajj, learning knowledge, Jihaad, giving advice; and avoid them in [acts of] evil, as well as unnecessary permissible things.

If necessity requires mixing with them in evil and avoiding them is not possible, then beware, beware of agreeing with them.

And be patient with their harm, for they must harm him if he does not have power or a helper. However, it is harm followed by honor and love for him, respect and praise for him from them, the believers, and from the Lord of the worlds.

Thus, patience with their harm is a better ending and a more praiseworthy conclusion.

If necessity requires mixing with them in unnecessary permissible things, he should strive to transform the gathering into one of obedience to Allaah if it is possible, he should encourage himself and strengthen his heart, and not pay attention to the satanic whisper of discouragement which will prevent him from that.

That this is Riyaa’ [showing off], a love of displaying one’s knowledge and state, etc., he should fight it and seek help from Almighty Allaah and try to affect them as positively as he can.

If destiny prevents him from that, he should remove his heart from among them the way a hair is removed from dough. Among them he should be present yet absent, close yet far and asleep yet awake.

He should look at them and not see them, hear their words but not be conscious of them, because he has removed his heart from among them and ascended with it to the uppermost hosts (Al-Mala’il-A’laa) glorifying [Allaah] around the throne along with the pure celestial spirits.

How difficult this is and trying for the souls, [yet] it is easy for whoever Allaah makes it easy.

Between a slave and [that state] is that he be truthful to Allaah – Blessed and High – continually seeking refuge in Him, and that he throw his soul on [Allaah’s] doorstep in humility.

Nothing will help him to do that besides sincere love, continual remembrance of Allaah with the heart and tongue, and avoidance of the remaining four corrupters to be mentioned.

He will achieve this except with righteous preparation and strong material from Allaah – Most Great and Glorious – and a truthful conviction, and freedom from attachment to other than Allaah, Most High. And Allaah Almighty knows best.

🔪The Second Corrupter: Riding the Sea of Wishes

It is a sea without shores. It is the sea ridden by the bankrupt of the world. It is said:

Wishes are the capital of the bankrupt, and its travel provisions are the promises of Satan, and impossible imaginations and falsehood.

The wealth of false wishes and false imaginations continue to play with one who rides them the way that dogs play with a corpse.

They are the supplies of every disgraced, humiliated, low soul, having no conviction to achieve external realities. So it turned away from them with mental wishes. And everyone has it according to his state:

From a wisher for power and authority, or travel and international travel, or wealth and valuables, or women …

The wisher imagines an image of what he desires in his mind, and he succeeds in creating it and takes pleasure in capturing it. While he is in this state he suddenly awakes to find his hand chained. (p. 446)

The one who has lofty/high conviction [himmah] his hopes pivot around knowledge and faith and deeds which will bring him closer to his Lord. These wishes are faith, light and wisdom, while the wishes of those are deception and delusion.

The Prophet (p) praised the one who wishes for good, and made his reward in some things similar to that of the one who actually does it, like the one who says:

If I had money I would do as so-and-so does who fears his Lord regarding his wealth, strengthening family ties with it, and extracts from it what is required.

Overlooking the Faults of One’s Brother

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Overlooking the Faults of One’s Brother

Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the foolish [i.e. don’t punish them]. (Qur ‘an 7: 199)

It is not right for you to forsake your brother because of one or two faults that you find in him, especially if the rest of his character is honorable. As we know, perfection for any one of us is unattainable.

Al-Kindi said:

“How is it that you want your friend to possess a specific pattern of characteristics when your soul which is the closest of souls to you – does not always obey your commands? What right do you then have to expect another person’s soul to follow your orders?”

Even as he is now, so were you yourselves before till Allah conferred on you His Favors [i.e. guided you to Islam]… (Qur’an 4: 94)

So ascribe not purity to yourselves. He knows best him who fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him. (Qur’an: 53: 32)

It is enough for you that you are satisfied with the main part of your brother’s character.

Abu Darda (may Allah be pleased with him) said:

“To reproach your brother for something is better than to lose him altogether.”

Some of the wise said:

“We are still not satisfied with ourselves, so how then can we expect ourselves to be satisfied with others.”

It has also been said:

“Don’t remain aloof from someone who impresses you with a good character and sound judgment because of some minor fault that is surrounded by an ocean of virtues. You will not find, as long as you live, a person so cultivated that he is free from blemish and sin. Contemplate your own self and how it often errs and strays. This kind of introspection makes your demand on others more balanced and makes you more sympathetic to the sinner.”

An Arab poet said:

“Who is the one whose character is untainted,

Sufficient worthiness for someone is that his defects can be counted.”

It has been said that one’s suspicions concerning one’s brother should not ruin a good mutual trust that has been tested over time.

Ja’far ibn Muhammad said to his son. “O’ my son, whoever among your brothers becomes angry with you three times, and on each occasion speaks only the truth about you, take him as a close friend.”

Al-Hasan ibn Wahb said,

“From the rights of mutual love is to forgive and overlook shortcomings.”

So overlook their faults with gracious forgiveness. (Qur ‘an 15: 85)

Ibn Roomi said:

“These are people and the world, and there is no doing away with dust

That irritates the eyes or spoils the drink.

From the lack of fairness is to expect refinement

In the world, while you yourself are unrefined.”

And had it not been for the Grace of Allah and His Mercy on you, not one of you would ever have been pure from sins. (Qur ‘an 24: 21)

A poet said:

“You seek a cultivated person who is free from defects, but does the aloe exude a pleasant odor without smoke.”

He knows best him who fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him. (Qur’an 53: 32)

Taken from ‘Don’t Be Sad’ by Aidh Al Qarni

May we all benefit from these advices. Ameen thumma ameen.