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27:This Ramadan….Increase in modesty

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Every religion has a manner and the manner of this religion is hayaa” (Ibn Majah).

Modesty (Hayaa) has a list of definitions including being shy, reserved, bashful, having self-respect e.t.c  It encompasses what we say, watch/read, treat others, interact with the opposite gender and even how we speak to Allah (swt).

It is such an important concept in our deen so much so that it a part of faith and the higher our eeman, the higher our modesty. 

In ramadan, Our modesty usually increases as we desist from using shameless, foul words (e.g ashar, mocking others); being careful as to what we are watching or what we are are reading: are they immodest topics? Is it causing us to lose our shame?

Also how we treated others. We tried to  treat everyone with respect and kindness And refrain from shouting and using disrespectful words.

And most importantly, how we related with the opposite sex. I’m sure we tried to lower our gaze as Allah (swt) commands us in the Qur’an and refrain from talking and laughing loudly with them. 

Ramadan is near ending, it would be a shame if we let all these good attributes of modesty just go away because it’s over. It’s up to you & I to try and continue these praiseworthy acts of Modesty beyond Ramadan.

Hayaa and eeman were locked together, so when one of them is uplifited the other becomes uplifted as well” (Al hakim).

We ask Allah (swt) to increase us in modesty and make it a ladder for our eman. Ameen thumma ameen.

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The Online Hijab

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Bismillah…
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It is really troubling what we see our sisters do on social network, its like a whole other person. Let me get straight to the point here. Hijab is Hijab! Online and in life! It’s not enough that in real life you’re covered head to toe but on the internet it’s a different thing. Make no distinction my dear, its the same thing. But what does it mean to wear hijab online? Does it mean to upload pictures with the hijab on or what? Actually my dear, its a much more than just that;

1.Pictures: First of all my dear sister, answer this question; why do you upload pictures? Is it for recognisability, then what’s your name for? The truth of the matter is you and I upload pictures because we want attention, because we like the attention, we all do. But what sort of attention do we really want? and whose? Do we really need some non-mahram guy to tell us we’re beautiful? or that we look like an angel? Allah(SWT) called the muslim woman beautiful, that’s why He ordered her to cover.
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You know how it’s said that when a muslimah goes out without hijab, for every eye that looks at her, she gets a share of the sin because she made it a possibility? Well its somewhat the same when she uploads pictures of hers. When you upload a picture, you’re obviously not going to choose one where you just woke up from bed, you’re going to choose one where you look nice, probably dressed up with make up on; and you know that non-mahram guys are going to view it or even save it. They get a sin for not lowering their gaze and you also get a sin for making that sin possible. If you went out with your hijab and he gazes at you, then it is his fault, but now you’re purposely posing for him to look at it.

Think about it, how many guys daily view your picture? Some may even use it as their profile pictures, you know what that means? More sins! Wallahi there are some evil men who have filthy thoughts when they view your picture and do evil things with your pictures.

If you don’t mind that the whole world should view your picture, then I’m sorry but your hayaa is not functioning properly my dear sister and hayaa is a branch of eeman.

 

2-INTERACTING WITH NON-MAHRAMS

Another issue that is of great concern is how our sisters interact so freely with guys over the internet. Highly inappropriate! This is one of the consequence of uploading pictures. A non-mahram starts making comments, saying inappropriate things, calling you ‘hot’ , ‘sexy’ , telling you how he can’t stop viewing your picture or how he’s been thinking of you all night long. Subhanallah, such foul talk, yet most of us would feel flattered at such comments.

Let me ask you, how would you feel if your parents were to view your facebook or twitter account? Or your Quran teacher? Or the prophet(SAW)? Then how do you forget that Allah(SWT) sees all?

Even the tone and language we use is inappropriate, we address some non-mahram guys as ‘dear’, ‘baby’, telling them how we miss them, using kiss and hug smileys with. In reality, would you call a guy that or use such words? Insha Allah you wouldn’t, so why would you do that on social networks? Allah(SWT)
commanded the believing woman.

‘….So do not be too soft in speech, lest someone having disease in his heart should develop fancies (about you);and speak with appropriate words’(Q33:32)

So you see, you’re provoking desires when you’re talking or chatting in such a manner.

My dear sister, I was once a victim of this, uploading pictures, enjoying the ‘oos’ and ‘aas’ ; but wallah I regret every minute of it and I’m still paying the price, having my pictures on random guys phone in far off places. It’s not pleasant at all and I can only hope that Allah(SWT) forgives me. So the earlier you repent the better!

My dear sister, you ARE beautiful! Allah has told you so and I’m also telling you. But this beauty of yours is a test, to see if you’ll guard it or flaunt it around. Don’t let the guys fool you with mere flattery, you’re much valuable than that. I think it’s a real dishonor to have random men viewing your beauty so easily like that.

I wrote this because I care about you and I don’t want you to make the same mistakes that I did .Think about the four greatest women; Khadija, Asiya, Maryam, Fatima, are we really following their footsteps? Would they put themselves on display like that?

My dear sister, fear Allah, remove those pictures,mind your language, don’t displease your maker for over a trivial matter. Remember that everything we do is recorded in our book of deeds. Practice the online hijab and may we all be together in jannah.