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✒*Beneficial Fatawa*✒

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✒*Beneficial Fatawa*✒

Question: *Is it Sunnah to observe a lot of naafil [supererogatory] fasts in the month of Muharram? Is there anything special about this month compared with other months*?

Praise be to Allah

The month of Muharram is the first month of the Arabic year, and it is one of the four sacred months of Allaah. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Verily, the number of months with Allaah is twelve months (in a year), so was it ordained by Allaah on the Day when He created the heavens and the earth; of them four are Sacred (i.e. the 1st, the 7th, the 11th and the 12th months of the Islamic calendar). That is the right religion, so wrong not yourselves therein”

[al-Tawbah 9:36]

al-Bukhaari (3167) and Muslim (1679) narrated from Abu Bakrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“The division of time has turned to its original form which was current the day Allaah created the heavens and earth. The year consists of twelve months of which four are sacred: three consecutive months, Dhu’l-Qa’dah, Dhu’l-Hijjah and Muharram, and Rajab of Mudar which comes between Jumada and Sha’baan.”

It was proven from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) that the best fasting after Ramadaan is fasting in the month of Muharram.

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“The best fasting after Ramadaan is the month of Allaah Muharram, and the best prayer after the obligatory prayer is prayer at night.” Narrated by Muslim, 1163.

With regard to the phrase “the month of Allaah”, mentioning the month in conjunction with Allaah is a sign of it’s great status. Al-Qaari said: it seems that what is meant is all of the month of Muharram.

But it was proven that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not fast any month in full apart from Ramadaan, so this hadeeth is to be understood as meaning that it is it is encouraged to fast a lot in the month of Muharram, not to fast the whole month.

And Allaah knows best.

WIPING  THE  FACE  AFTER MAKING DU’A

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WIPING  THE  FACE  AFTER MAKING DU’A

✒ Beneficial Fatawas✒

✅WIPING  THE  FACE  AFTER  MAKING  DU’A

What is the authentic ruling❓

_It is *not prescribed* to wipe the face after making du’aa’._

There are many ahaadeeth which describe how the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) called upon his Lord in du’aa’, and there is no proven report that he used to wipe his face after making du’aa’.

Those who say that the face should be wiped quoted some ahaadeeth as evidence, but upon further examination they are not saheeh, and do not support one another.

As for the views of the scholars who say that it is not allowed to wipe the face, they include the following:

1 – Imam Ahmad ibn Hanbal said:

It is not known that anyone used to wipe his face after making du’aa’ except al-Hasan.

_🗝Al-‘Ilal al-Mutanaahiyah, 2/840, 841._

2 – Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said:

With regard to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) raising his hands when saying du’aa’, there are many saheeh ahaadeeth concerning this, but as for his wiping his face with his hands, there are only one or two hadeeths concerning that, and they cannot be taken as evidence.

_🗝Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 22/519._

3 – al-‘Izz ibn ‘Abd al-Salaam said:

No one wipes his face with his hands after saying du’aa’ except one who is ignorant.

_🗝Fataawa al-‘Izz ibn ‘Abd al-Salaam, p. 47._

If it is not permitted to wipe the face after making du’aa’, it is more likely that the person who says du’aa’ should not be allowed to wipe his body either, or to kiss his eyes.

Rather the scholars stated that kissing the thumbs and placing them on the eyes is a bid’ah that was introduced by some of the Sufi tareeqahs, and there is a hadeeth concerning that which is falsely attributed to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).

Shaykh Muhammad ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked about the ruling on wiping the face with the hands after making du’aa’. He replied:

Wiping the face with the hands after making du’aa’ is more likely to be not prescribed in Islam, *because the ahaadeeth that have been narrated concerning that are da’eef (weak).*

Shaykh al-Islam (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: They cannot be used as evidence. If we are not certain or we think it most likely that this is not prescribed, then it is better not to do it, because Islamic rulings cannot be proven on the basis of mere conjecture, unless we believe it to be mostly likely to be the case.

What I think about wiping the face with the hands after du’aa’ is that it is *not Sunnah.* As is well known, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) prayed for rain during his Friday khutbah and raised his hands, but it is not narrated that he wiped his face with them. Similarly in a number of ahaadeeth it says that the Prophet raised his hands, but there is no proof that he wiped his face.

End quote.

_🗝Majmoo’ Fataawa Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 14/question no. 781._

🔱 والله أعلم.

The virtue of Takbeer

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The virtue of Takbeer

🌴 *Islamic Fatawa* 🌴

*Topic: The virtue of Takbeer*

🌹 *Question:*

What is the takbeer at specified times and all the time? When does it start?.

🌹 *Answer:*

Praise be to Allaah.

🌷🌷Firstly – The virtue of Takbeer🌷🌷

The first ten days of Dhu’l-Hijjah are venerated days. Allaah swore by them in His Book, and swearing by a thing is indicative of its importance and great benefit. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“By the dawn;

By the ten nights (i.e. the first ten days of the month of Dhul-Hijjah)”

[al-Fajr 89:1]

Ibn ‘Abbaas, Ibn al-Zubayr, Mujaahid and others among the earlier and later generations said: This refers to the ten days of Dhu’l-Hijjah. Ibn Katheer said: This is the correct view.

Tafseer Ibn Katheer, 8/413

Good deeds during these days are beloved to Allaah, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: *“There are no days in which righteous deeds are more beloved to Allaah than these ten days.” They said, “O Messenger of Allaah, not even jihad for the sake of Allaah?” The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “Not even jihad for the sake of Allaah, except in the case of a man who went out to fight, giving himself and his wealth up for the cause, and came back with nothing.”* Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 969; al-Tirmidhi, 757. This version was narrated by al-Tirmidhi and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 605.

One of the righteous deeds during these days is to remember Allaah by reciting takbeer (saying *“Allaahu akbar”) and tahleel (saying “Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah”)*, because of the following evidence.

🌹1 – Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“That they may witness things that are of benefit to them (i.e. reward of Hajj in the Hereafter, and also some worldly gain from trade), and mention the Name of Allaah on appointed days”

[al-Hajj 22:28]

The “appointed days” are the first ten days of Dhu’l-Hijjah.

🌹2 – Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And remember Allaah during the appointed Days”

[al-Baqarah 2:203]

These are the days of al-Tashreeq, i.e. the 11th, 12th and 13th of Dhu’l-Hijjah.

🌹3 – The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: *“The days of tashreeq are the days of eating, drinking and remembering Allaah.”* Narrated by Muslim, 1141.

🌷🌷Secondly: Description of the Takbeer 🌷🌷

The scholars differed concerning the form of the Takbeer.

🌹1 – The first view is that it is:

*Allaahu akbar, Allaahu akbar, laa ilaaha ill-Allaah, Allaahu akbar, Allaahu akbar, wa lillaahi’l-hamd* (Allaah is Most Great, Allaah is Most Great, there is no god but Allaah, Allaah is Most Great, Allaah is Most Great, and to Allaah be praise).

🌹2 – The second view is that it is:

*Allaahu akbar, Allaahu akbar, Allaahu akbar, laa ilaaha ill-Allaah, Allaahu akbar, Allaahu akbar, Allaahu akbar, wa lillaahi’l-hamd* (Allaah is Most Great, Allaah is Most Great, Allaah is Most Great, there is no god but Allaah, Allaah is Most Great, Allaah is Most Great, Allaah is Most Great, and to Allaah be praise).

🌹3 – The third view is that it is:

*Allaahu akbar, Allaahu akbar, Allaahu akbar, laa ilaaha ill-Allaah, Allaahu akbar, Allaahu akbar, wa lillaahi’l-hamd* (Allaah is Most Great, Allaah is Most Great, Allaah is Most Great, there is no god but Allaah, Allaah is Most Great, Allaah is Most Great, and to Allaah be praise).

The matter is broad in scope because there is no text narrated from the Prophet SAW which specifies a particular form of the Takbeer.

🌹Thirdly – The time of the Takbeer

*The takbeer is divided into two categories:*

🌹1 – *Takbeer at any time.* This is takbeer that is not limited to a specific time, and it is Sunnah to say it all the time, morning and evening, before prayer and after prayer, at all times.

🌹2 – *Takbeer at certain times.* This is takbeer that is limited to the time immediately after prayer.

It is Sunnah to recite takbeer at any time during the first ten days of Dhu’l-Hijjah and all the days of Tashreeq, starting from the beginning of the month of Dhu’l-Hijjah (i.e., from sunset on the last day of Dhu’l-Qa’dah) until the end of the days of al-Tashreeq, which is when the sun sets on the thirteenth day of Dhu’l-Hijjah).

With regard to at certain times, it starts from Fajr on the day of ‘Arafah and lasts until the sun sets on the last day of the days of Tashreeq, in addition to the takbeer that may be recited at any time. So when a person says the tasleem at the end of the obligatory prayer, he should pray for forgiveness *(by saying Astaghfir-Allaah) three times, and say, “Allaahumma anta al-salaam wa minka al-salaam, tabaarakta yaa dhaa’l-jalaali wa’l-ikraam* (“O Allaah, You are al-Salaam [the One Who is free from all defects and deficiencies), and from You is all peace, blessed are You, O possessor of majesty and honour)”, then start the takbeer.

This is for those who are not on Hajj. The pilgrims should start the takbeer recited after prayer from Zuhr on the Day of Sacrifice (the 10thof Dhu’l-Hijjah).

And Allaah knows best.

See Majmoo’ Fataawa Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him), 13/17; al-Sharh al-Mumti’ by Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him), 5/220-224.

Islam Q&A

Weeping for Fear of Allah

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Weeping for Fear of Allah

🌴 *Islamic Fatwa* 🌴

🍀 *Topic: Weeping for Fear of Allah*

*Question :*

I am a man and I never cry. How can I make my eyes weep for fear of Allah in accordance with the hadeeth: “Two eyes that will never be touched by the Fire” in which it mentions “The eye that weeps for fear of Allah”?

May Allah reward you with good.

*Answer:*

Praise be to Allah

Undoubtedly your feelings of regret for missing out on this blessing is a very good sign. You should note that the Muslim can accustom himself to weep for fear of Allah, by doing the following:

🍀 *1 – Making yourself feel fear of Allah.*

This weeping is the fruit of beneficial knowledge, as al-Qurtubi says in his commentary on the verse (interpretation of the meaning):

*“And they fall down on their faces weeping”* [17:109]

This is an eloquent description of them and praise for them. It is the duty of everyone who acquires knowledge to reach this level, so that when he hears the Quran he is filled with fear and humility. In Musnad al-Daarimi it is narrated from Abu Muhammad that al-Taymi said: Whoever is given knowledge and does not weep, he deserves not to have any knowledge, because Allah has described those who have knowledge; then he recited this verse.

Al-Jaami’ li Ahkaam il-Qur’aan, 10/341-342.

🍀 *2 – Reading the Quran and pondering its meanings*

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

*“Say (O Muhammad to them): Believe in it (the Quran) or do not believe (in it). Verily, those who were given knowledge before it, when it is recited to them, fall down on their faces in humble prostration.*

*And they say: Glory be to our Lord! Truly, the Promise of our Lord must be fulfilled.*

*And they fall down on their faces weeping and it increases their humility”* [17:107-109]

*“Those were they unto whom Allah bestowed His grace from among the Prophets, of the offspring of Adam, and of those whom We carried (in the ship) with Nooh, and of the offspring of Ibrahim and Israel, and from among those whom We guided and chose. When the Verses of the Most Gracious (Allah) were recited unto them, they fell down prostrate and weeping”* [19:58]

It was narrated that Ibn Mas’ood (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to me: *“Recite the Quran to me.”* I said: *“O Messenger of Allah, shall I recite it to you when it was revealed to you?”* He said: *“I like to hear it from someone else.”* So I recited Soorat al-Nisa’ to him, and when I reached this verse – *“How (will it be) then, when We bring from each nation a witness and We bring you (O Muhammad) as a witness against these people?”* [4:41] – he said: *“That is enough for now.”* I turned to him and saw his eyes were streaming with tears. Narrated by al-Bukhari andMuslim.

🍀 *3 – Knowing the greatness of the reward for weeping, especially when one is alone.*

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah said: *“A man who weeps for fear of Allah will not enter Hell until the milk goes back into the udder, and dust produced (when fighting) for the sake of Allah and the smoke of Hell will never coexist.”* Narrated by al-Tirmidhi and al-Nasaa’i.

*“until the milk goes back into the udder”* is a metaphor for it being impossible, as in the verse where Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): *“and they will not enter Paradise until the camel goes through the eye of the needle”* [7:40]. Tuhfat al-Ahwadhi.

And it was narrated that he said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: *“There are seven whom Allah will shade with His shade on the day when there will be no shade but His: a just ruler; a young man who grows up worshipping Allah; a man whose heart is attached to the mosque; two people who love one another for the sake of Allah, meeting and parting on that basis; a man who is called (to commit sin) by a woman of high status and great beauty and he says, ‘I fear Allah’; a man who gives in charity so secretly that his left hand does not know what his right hand is doing; and a man who remembers Allah when he is alone and his eyes flow with tears.”* Narrated by al-Bukhari and Muslim.

Weeping when alone is singled out because being alone is a time when the heart tends to become harder and there is a stronger motive to commit sin, and it is farthest removed from the possibility of showing off. So if a person strives to do this, and makes himself feel the greatness and might of Allah, and his eyes flow with tears, then he deserves to be beneath the shade of the Throne of the Most Merciful on the Day when there will be no shade but His shade.

🍀 *4 – Thinking about your situation and your boldness in committing sin, and fearing to meet Allah in such a state.*

One of the righteous people used to weep night and day, and something was said to him about that. He said: *“I am afraid that Allah will see me committing sin and will say: ‘Go away from Me for I am angry with you.’”* Hence Sufyan used to weep and say: *“I am afraid that my faith will be taken away at the moment of death.”*

Isma’il ibn Zakariya described Habeeb ibn Muhammad, who was a neighbour of his. He said: *“Every evening I heard him weeping and every morning I heard him weeping, so I went to his wife and said: ‘What is the matter with him? He weeps in the evening and he weeps in the morning!’ She said to me: ‘By Allah, when evening comes he fears that he will not live till morning and when morning comes he fears that he will not live till evening.’”*

The salaf (righteous predecessors) used to weep and grieve a great deal. When Yazeed al-Raqaashi was criticized for weeping a great deal and it was said to him, *“If the Fire had been created exclusively for you, you would not weep more than this,”* he said: *“Has the Fire been created for anyone other than me and my companions and brothers among the jinn and mankind?”*

When ‘Ata’ al-Sulaymi was asked: *“What is this grief?” he said: “Woe to you! Death is close at hand, the grave is my house, on the Day of Resurrection I will stand and my path is over a bridge across Hell, and I do not know what will become of me.”*

Faddalah ibn Sayfi used to weep a great deal. A man entered upon him when he was weeping and said to his wife: *“What is the matter with him?” She said: “He says that he wants to undertake a long journey and he does not have proper provision for it.”*

One night al-Hasan woke up weeping, and he disturbed the other people in the house with his weeping. They asked him what was the matter and he said: *“I remembered a sin that I committed and I wept.”*

It was narrated that Tameem al-Daari (may Allah be pleased with him) recited this verse (interpretation of the meaning): *“Or do those who earn evil deeds think that We shall hold them equal with those who believe (in the Oneness of Allah- Islamic Monotheism) and do righteous good deeds”* [45:21] and he started repeating it and weeping until morning came.

Hudhayfah (may Allah be pleased with him) used to weep intensely, and it was said to him: *“Why are you weeping?” He said: “I do not know what is ahead of me – Divine pleasure or divine wrath.”*

Sa’d ibn al-Akhram said: I was walking with Ibn Mas’ood and he passed by the blacksmiths, who had brought a piece of iron out of the fire. He stood and looked at the molten iron and wept.

🍀 *5 – Making yourself feel regret and feeling that you have fallen short in your duties towards Allah.*

The tears of the repentant at night quenches thirst and cures sickness, as the Shaykh of the Mufassireen (exegetists), Abu Ja’far al-Tabari, said in his commentary on the verse (interpretation of the meaning):

*“Do you then wonder at this recitation (the Quran)?*

*And you laugh at it and weep not”* [53:59-60]

Do not weep at the warnings contained therein to those who disobey Allah, when you are people who commit sin, *“Wasting your (precious) lifetime in pastime and amusements (singing)”* [53:61] – you are heedless of the lessons and reminders contained therein, turning away from its verses.

Jaami’ al-Bayaan ‘an Ta’weel Aayi al-Qur’aan, 27/82.

🍀 *6 – Weeping out of fear of a bad end.*

It was narrated that Ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said: When the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) passed by al-Hijr (the land of the people of Thamood) he said: *“Do not enter the dwellings of those who wronged themselves, lest what befell them befall you, unless you are weeping.”* Then the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) covered his head and walked quickly until he had left the valley. Narrated by al-Bukhari and Muslim.

Al-Nawawi included this hadeeth in a chapter entitled *“Weeping and feeling fear when passing by the graves of the wrongdoers and the places where they were killed, and expressing one’s need of Allah, and being careful not to be negligent in that.”* Riyadh al-Saliheen.

🍀 *7 – Listening to moving speeches and lectures that will soften the heart.*

It was narrated that al-‘Irbad ibn Sariyah (may Allah be pleased with him), who was one of those who used to weep, said: *“The Messenger of Allah delivered a deeply moving speech at which our eyes began to overflow and our hearts melted.”* Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood and Ibn Maajah.

May Allah help us and you to do that which our Lord loves and is pleased with him.

Islam Q&A

Giving up on life

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🌈 *Islamic Fatawa*🌈

*Topic: Giving up on life*

*Question:*

I have been suffering from pains in my body, which have increased by a spell that spoilt my life. I have aged in years, but yet not married!

I feel desperate and depressed. My life is about suffering, empty of success and I do not fulfill my religious duties, so I am not comfortable in life neither I feel the sweetness of Iman. How shall I continue my life?!.

*Answer:*

Praise be to Allaah.

From your words and your description of the problem that you are facing, some important points are clear to us, to which we should pay special attention. These include the following:

🌈Firstly:

You have some good things that are priceless, chief among which is Islam. This is a great blessing that Allaah has bestowed upon every Muslim; no matter what calamities, worries, stress and depression befall him, he must remember that he is a Muslim and that Allaah loves for His slaves to be Muslim even though He has no need of them and it does not harm Him if they disbelieve. Even if a person does some bad deeds, his staying within the circle of Islam is one of the greatest blessings that Allaah bestows upon him.

Imagine that you had the best that this world has to offer: wealth, status, a husband, children, a peaceful and stable home, education, a life filled with happiness, and everything that you could wish for, but at the same time you followed Judaism or Christianity or Buddhism, or you regarded a cow as holy, as millions of people do, or you worshipped a mouse, or the sun, or some other created thing, or that you were confused? Would that be better, or having the problems and worries that you have, but you are still Muslim?

🌈Secondly:

You follow the Sunnah. Imagine if you claimed to be a Muslim but you were following a wrong path. Imagine if you were a Raafidi Shi’ah, believing that the Qur’aan is distorted and lacking something, and venerating ‘Ali and reviling the Sahaabah (may Allaah be pleased with them all), regarding most of them as kaafirs and worshipping Allaah by cursing Abu Bakr and ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with them), and accusing the Mother of the Believers ‘Aa’ishah of zina – as millions of those who claim to follow Islam do, but Islam has nothing to do with them.

Or imagine that you were one of those who claim to follow Islam but they believe that the awliya’ (“saints”) in their graves can being benefit and cause harm, so they call upon them and seek their help, and offer sacrifices to them and make offerings to them. Undoubtedly this is blatant kufr.

This is a reference to just two of the seventy-two sects that claim to belong to Islam, but they will all be in Hell except for one, as was stated by the one who did not speak on the basis of whims and desires – the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).

Which is dearer to you – having this world and all its delights beneath your feet whilst being so misguided and deviant, or being a Sunni Muslim, in accordance with sound human nature and affirming the Oneness of Allaah (Tawheed), even though you have many worries and problems?

🌈Thirdly:

Praise Allaah for having been guided to pray and enabled to do good deeds, for many people regard themselves as Sunni Muslims, but they do not pray. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: *“The covenant that distinguishes between us and them is prayer; whoever does not pray is a kaafir.”* Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (2621), al-Nasaa’i (463) and Ibn Majaah (1079); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inSaheeh al-Tirmidhi.

Part of being enabled to do good deeds is loving Allaah and His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and the Sahaabah, as you mention in your letter. It is proven that our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: *“There are three characteristics, whoever attains them has found the sweetness of faith: when Allaah and His Messenger are dearer to him than all else, when he loves a man and does not love him except for the sake of Allaah, and when he would hate to return to kufr after Allaah has saved him from it as he would hate to be thrown into the fire.”* Narrated by al-Bukhaari (16) and Muslim (43).

By the same token, love of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and his companions is one of the greatest means of drawing closer to Allaah, of which most of mankind is deprived. It is narrated in a saheeh report that he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: *“A man will be with those whom he loves.”* Narrated by al-Bukhaari (6169) and Muslim (2640) from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood; also narrated by Muslim (2639) from Anas ibn Maalik (may Allaah be pleased with him).

These are great blessings, just one of which cannot be traded for this world and its pleasures and delights, but in fact you are not aware of their true value, because you have not experienced being without them, even for a single day, and you did not see their fruits in the world except on a very small scale.

We do not underestimate the severity of the problem from which you are suffering, but exaggerating about things may make a single problem into several problems. In fact you have several problems, so how about if you were to exaggerate about each one of them until they became like many problems?

Looking at a problem from only one angle generates worry, distress and depression, and if it is minor it will increase in one’s eyes until one thinks that all the problems of the world are on one’s shoulders, and there is no problem that a Muslim could have that is one hundred percent pure evil? In most cases the good that exists in the calamity is many times greater than the bad.

🌈Firstly: Do you know that Allaah tests the believing woman because He loves her and wants what is good for her? In al-Saheeh it is narrated that our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: *“When Allaah wills good for a person, He tests him.”* Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5321).

What great grace it is that Allaah cleanses His slave whom He loves of sin straight away, with trials and calamities, so that he will meet Him on the (Day of Resurrection) with no sin on him, and his joy on that Day will be great, and he will realize then that the calamities that befell him were among the greatest blessings that Allaah bestowed on him.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: *“On the Day of Resurrection, when people who had suffered affliction are given their reward, those who were healthy will wish their skins had been cut to pieces with scissors when they were in the world.”* Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2402. Classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

Look again at the life that you are living, and at the calamities that you are suffering, and think positively of your Lord, for He is the wisest of the wise, may He be glorified.

*Try as much as you can to look at the positive side of every problem that you are suffering, whether it is psychological or material.* For example:

🌈Delay in marriage:

How many girls find that marriage for them is delayed, then it turns out to be good for them.

There was a woman who reached the age of forty; her sisters and brothers all got married, and her parents died, and she stayed in the house alone. She was religiously committed and righteous. A woman said to her: May Allaah help you to cope with this loneliness; you have stayed alone after all your family has gone. And she started to encourage her to be patient. But she gave an amazing response that not even great and prominent people could come up with, and those who heard this answer were stunned by it. She said: Who told you that I am living alone? Not at all. I have not lived a single day without the one I love. He is with me night and day, and He does not leave me for a moment, and I talk to Him at moments when He is closest to me. He is my Lord.

🌈Another example is the problem of not having children.

One of our sisters got married but did not have children for many years, then she found out from medical tests that she was the one who could not have children. She gave her husband the choice of divorcing her or taking a second wife to live with her like two sisters in one house. He loved her for her religious commitment and righteousness, so he chose to take another wife and to keep her with him as a co-wife with all the rights of marriage. That was done, and she now had some free time. She joined a group of women to memorize Qur’aan, until she had memorized it all, and she earned a certificate in learning and memorizing Qur’aan. Then she began to study and she took a course in fiqh and another in ‘aqeedah. Now she is a teacher of women in a women’s centre, and she has had the honour of introducing the Sunnah to many areas that were dominated by innovations and myths. She has played a major role in eradicating ignorance for many women who used to worship Allaah in ignorance. She bore her inability to have children with patience, and her Lord honoured her, and her use of her free time had a great impact on her and others with regard to knowledge and education.

🌈A third example:

This has to do with one of the greatest problems from which you are suffering, which is sihr (magic or witchcraft), and the influence of the jinn and practitioners of witchcraft among mankind. This example will give answers to most of the questions that have to do with this topic.

There was a girl from a good and religiously committed family. The family was faced the problem that the wife of one of their sons practised witchcraft. She had an argument with her husband’s sister and put a spell on her so that suitors would be put off and to make her appear ugly when first seen, so that the suitor would not return. That happened many times despite the fact that she was notably beautiful, and that went on for a long time. Then she was treated with shar’i ruqyah to combat witchcraft and the effects of witchcraft became apparent on her.  She was treated for a while, to no avail. Every time she thought that the problem had been solved, she would suddenly find that she was suffering from the same spell, and she suffered the same as you are suffering now, worry, stress and depression.

She started to wonder, could people hate another for no reason to such an extent that they would cause harm to one another, and the witchcraft and the jinn started causing her to panic by night and day.

Then she referred her problem to a specialist who told her: There are ten things that you must adhere to, and by Allaah’s leave this problem will not last for long if you are patient and put up with it for a little while. You do not need to go to a man to treat you with ruqyah, rather you can treat yourself by yourself. She said: I will be patient and I will do my best, if Allaah wills. So he wrote down the ten points for her and she adhered to them and stuck firmly to them. Here are the ten points; we will write them for you and we ask Allaah to enable you to adhere to them as part of the remedy for several problems that you have, of which sihr is one.

Wishing for death due to Harm

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Wishing for death due to Harm

🌸 *Fatwa* 🌸

*The Ruling Concerning Wishing for Death due to Harm that Has Come.*

*Question:*

I have faced so many difficulties in my life that it has made me hate this life. Every time I turned to Allah, I pleaded for Him to take my life away from me at the earliest. This is my wish until now as I do not see any solutions to my problems except death; it is the only thing that can save me from this punishment. Is this behaviour forbidden for me?

*Answer:*

When a person wishes for death because of something that has afflicted him, he is doing something that the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) said,

*”None of you should hope for death because of some harm that has come to him. If he has wish such, he should say, ‘O Allah, give me life if You know that life is better for me. And give me death if You that death is better is better for me.’”* [1]

Therefore, It is not allowed for anyone to wish for death because of some harm, hardship or difficulty that has come to him. Infact, he should be patient and expect a reward from Allah for what he is passing through. He should also wait for relief to come, as the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) has said,

*“Know that victory comes with patience, relief with distress, and ease with hardship.”* [2]

The one who is afflicted with any affliction should know that those afflictions expiate some of his sins that he has committed. No believer is afflicted with any kind of worry, grief or pain except that Allah expiates sins from him due to that, even the pricking of a thorn. When the person is patient and expects rewards from Allah, he reaches the stage of being patient. This stage is a very elevated stage. Allah has stated about its inhabitants,

*”And give glad tidings to the patient. Who, when afflicted with calamity, say, ‘Truly, to Allah we belong and, truly, to Him we shall return.’”* (Surah al-baqarah 155 -156)

The women in the question feels that there is no solution for her problems except death. I believe this is a mistaken view. *Death does not solve any problems. Infact, the situation of adversity may get even worse.* How many humans die while being afflicted with pain and problems but they had been wronging themselves and did not give up their sins and repent to Allah. Then his death is just a quicker coming of his punishment. If he remained alive, perhaps Allah would have guided him to repentance, seeking forgiveness, patience, facing the problems and expecting the relief. This all would have been good for him.

Therefore, you the questioner must be patient and expect relief from Allah. Allah says in His Book,

*”So verily with hardship there is relief. Verily with the hardship there is relief.”* (Surah al- Sharh 5-6)

The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) stated in an authentic narration,

*”Know that victory comes with patience, relief with distress, and ease with hardship.”* [3]

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[1] Recorded by al-Bukhari, and Muslim.

[2] According to al- Albani, it is an authentic hadith. See al- Albani Sahih al- Jami al- Sagheer, Vol. 2, p. 1151

[3] According to al- Albani, it is an authentic hadith. See al- Albani Sahih al- Jami al- Sagheer, Vol. 2, p. 1151

Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih al-`UthaymeenIslamic Fatawa Regarding Women – Darussalam Pg.48-50

Divorce at the time of menses

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Divorce at the time of menses

🌸 *Fatwa Regarding Women* 🌸

*Topic: Divorce at the time of menses*

*Q* 💬On the first day of her menses she forgot to tell her husband, and asked him for a divorce, and the third talaaq was issued. Then she remembered that and told him. What is the shar’i response to that?.

*A*💬Praise be to Allaah.

The fuqaha’ differed as to whether the divorce of a menstruating woman counts as such or not. The majority are of the view that it does count as such, but there is a group of ‘ulama’ who say that it does not, and this is the view reflected in the fatwas of many contemporary fuqaha’ such as Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) and Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him).

Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Divorce of a menstruating woman does not count as such according to the more sound of the two scholarly opinions, which is contrary to the view of the majority. The majority of scholars think that it does count as such, but the correct scholarly view is that reflected in the fatwas of some of the Taabi’een and in the fatwa of Ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him). This is also the view favoured by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah and his student Ibn al-Qayyim and a number of scholars who said that this divorce does not count as such, because it is contrary to the laws of Allaah. Allaah decreed that a woman should be divorced when she is in a state of purity, free from nifaas (postpartum bleeding) and menses, and during a time of purity when her husband has not yet had intercourse with her. This is the divorce that is prescribed according to sharee’ah. If he divorces her during her menses or nifaas, or during a time of purity when he has had intercourse with her, then his divorce is bid’ah (an innovation) and does not count as such according to the more sound of the two scholarly views, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“O Prophet! When you divorce women, divorce them at their ‘Iddah (prescribed periods) and count (accurately) their ‘Iddah ”

[al-Talaaq 65:1]

What this means is when they are pure (not menstruating) and you have not had intercourse with them. This is what the scholars have said about divorcing them at their prescribed periods, they should be pure (not menstruating) and you should not have had intercourse with them, or they should be pregnant. This is what is meant by divorce at their prescribed periods. End quote from Fataawa al-Talaaq, p. 44

It says in Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (20/58): There are several kinds of innovated divorce: where a man divorces his wife during her menses or nifaas, or during a time of purity when he has had intercourse with her. The correct view is that this does not count as a divorce. End quote.

Based on this, if the divorce was issued at the time of her menses, it does not count and the woman is still married to her husband.

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked about a man who divorced his wife when she was menstruating but he did not know that she was menstruating – does this divorce count as such?

He replied:

The scholars differed concerning a divorce that takes place when a woman has her monthly period, and there was a lengthy discussion as to whether the divorce counts or not. The majority of scholars are of the view that it does count as such and is regarded as a divorce, but the man should be told to take her back and keep her until she has become pure from her menses, then menstruated a second time and become pure. Then if he wishes he may keep her and if he wishes he may divorce her. This is the view of the majority of scholars, include the four imams: Ahmad, al-Shaafa’i, Maalik and Abu Haneefah. But the more correct view in our opinion is that favoured by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him), that divorce at the time of menses does not count as such, because it goes against the command of Allaah and His Messenger. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever does any action that is not in accordance with this matter of ours will have it rejected.” The evidence concerning this very issue is the hadeeth of ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar, when he divorced his wife at the time of her menses. He told the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) about that and the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) got very angry and said: “Tell him to take her back, then keep her until she has become pure, then menstruated, then become pure, then if he wishes he may keep her after that and if he wishes he may divorce her.” Then the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “That is the prescribed period at which Allaah has commanded men to divorce women.” The prescribed period at which Allaah has commanded men to divorce women means that a man may only divorce his wife when she is pure (not menstruating) and he has not had intercourse with her. Based on this, if he divorces her when she is menstruating, he has not divorced her in accordance with the command of Allaah, so it is to be rejected. We think that the divorce that has been issued to this woman does not count as such, and that the woman is still married to her husband. It does not matter whether the husband knew that she was menstruating or not menstruating when he issued the divorce. Yes, his knowledge of her condition does not matter, but if he knew about that then he has committed a sin, and the divorce does not count. If he did not know, then the divorce still does not count, but there is no sin on the husband. End quote.

Fataawa Islamiyyah, 3/268.

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