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Reducing the eyebrows by cutting them

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Reducing the eyebrows by cutting them

*Q*💬 *I have come across various Islamic articles & write-ups that have spoken against shaving of hair on eyebrows amongst other areas of the body. I however need clarification on this does this shaving refer to TOTAL shaving? Am I allowed to reduce the amount of hair by mere shaping ? I have very bushy eyebrows that need trimming as it makes my face look crowded.*

*A*💬Praise be to Allaah.  

We will quote for you the fatwas issued by the scholars concerning the ruling on removing hair from the eyebrows and hair from the rest of the body. 
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: “If removing hair from the eyebrows is done by plucking, this is namas (plucking the eyebrows) and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cursed the naamisah (the woman who plucks eyebrows) and the mutanammisah (the woman who has her eyebrows plucked). This is a major sin, and women are singled out in this ruling because they are the ones who usually do this, for the purpose of beautification, but if a man were to do it he would also be cursed, just as a woman is cursed for doing this, Allaah forbid. 
If hair is removed from the eyebrows by a method other than plucking, such as by cutting or shaving, some of the scholars regard this as being the same as plucking, because it is changing the creation of Allaah, so there is no difference between plucking, cutting or shaving. This is undoubtedly more on the safe side, so a person must avoid that, whether man or woman.” 
(Quoted from Fataawa ‘Ulama’ al-Balad al-Haraam, p. 577) 
 The following question was mentioned in Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (5/196): 
A young woman has very thick eyebrows that make her look bad. This girl was forced to shave part of the area between the eyebrows and to reduce the rest so that she will look acceptable to her husband. 
The Committee replied: 
“It is not permissible to shave the eyebrows or reduce then, because that is the namas (plucking) for which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cursed the one who does it and the one who asks for it to be done. What you must do is repent and pray for forgiveness for what you have done in the past, and beware of that in the future. 
Another question (5/195) was put to the Committee: 
Namas means removing some of the hair of the eyebrows, and is not permitted, because the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cursed the woman who plucks her eyebrows and the one who has that done, but it is permissible for a woman to remove a beard or moustache, if one grows, or hair from her legs or arms.” 
The hadeeth which says that the woman who plucks the eyebrows or who has that done is cursed was narrated by al-Bukhaari (4886) and Muslim (2125), from the hadeeth of ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah be pleased with him). 
The point is that it is haraam to remove any hair from the eyebrows, whether all the hair is removed by shaving, or some of it is removed by cutting. Anything apart from that is permissible, such as removing hair from the arms and legs, and the area between the eyebrows. The following appeared in Fataawa al-Lajnah (5/197): 
*Question*: What is the ruling on plucking the hair between the eyebrows? 
*Answer*: It is permissible to pluck it, because it is not part of the eyebrows. 
And Allaah knows best.
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Using Hair Extensions 

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Using Hair Extensions 

*Q*💬 *There are hair ties that are made of elastic and contain coloured hairs or hair that is all the same colour. What is the ruling on that?*

*A*💬Praise be to Allah.
It is not permissible for a woman to attach other hair to her hair (hair extensions) because of the warning against hair extensions. 
Al-Bukhaari (5937) and Muslim (2122) narrated from Ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “May Allah curse the one who adds hair extensions and the one who has them added, the one who does tattoos and the one who has them done.” 
Muslim (2126) narrated that Jaabir ibn ‘Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) forbade women to attach anything to their head. 
This is general in meaning and applies to anything that may be attached to the head. Hence some of the scholars are of the view that it is haraam to attach string, fabric and the like to the hair; others are of the opinion that what is haraam is attaching hair to it. 
An-Nawawi said in Sharh Muslim: al-Qaadi ‘Iyaad said: The scholars differed concerning this issue. Maalik, at-Tabari and many or most of the scholars said that attaching anything is prohibited, whether it is hair, wool, or cloth. They quoted as evidence for that the hadeeth of Jaabir which was narrated by Muslim, according to which the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) forbade women to attach anything to their head. 
Al-Layth ibn Sa‘d said: The prohibition applies specifically to attaching hair; there is nothing wrong with attaching wool, cloth and so on. Others said: All of that is permissible. This is narrated from ‘Aa’ishah, but it is not narrated from her in a saheeh report; rather the saheeh report from her is in accordance with the view of the majority. 
Al-Qaadi said: With regard to tying strings of coloured silk and the like which does not resemble hair, that is not prohibited because it does not come under the heading of attaching hair extensions and it does not serve the same purpose as hair extensions; rather it is done for the purpose of beautification and adornment. In the hadeeth it states that doing hair extensions is a major sin for which the one who does it is cursed; it also shows that the one who helps in doing something haraam has a share of the burden of sin with the one who does it, just as the one who helps in an act of obedience has a share of the reward. End quote. 
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) issued a fatwa forbidding doing hair extensions with artificial hair.
He (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked: How sound is this hadeeth and what is meant by it: May Allah curse the one who adds hair extensions and the one who has them added…”? Does it refer to hair that is made from hair that has fallen out (i.e., natural hair), or hair that is manufactured from fibres and other artificial materials? 
He (may Allah have mercy on him) replied: The one who does hair extensions is the one who attaches them to the head of another woman, and the woman who has them added is the one who asks for that to be done to her. Attaching hair to the hair of the head (hair extensions) is haraam; indeed it is a major sin, because the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) cursed the one who does that. 
The scholars differed concerning attaching something other than hair to the hair. Some of them said that it is not permissible, because the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) forbade women to attach anything to their hair, and the word anything is general in meaning and includes hair and other things. 
Based on that, it is not permissible to attach to the natural hair artificial hair that resembles the hair created by Allah, may He be glorified and exalted; rather that is included in this hadeeth. This hadeeth contains a stern warning to the one who does that, because the Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: May Allah curse the one who adds hair extensions and the one who has them added.” What is meant by being cursed is being excluded and banished far away from the mercy of Allah. The scholars have stated that every sin for which Allah, may He be exalted, has decreed the punishment of being cursed is a major sin.
End quote from Fataawa Noor ‘ala ad-Darb. 
If the hair ties asked about here include hair that is mixed with the hair on the head so that it appears to be attached to it, then it comes under the heading of hair extensions which are haraam. 
And Allah knows best.
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Celebration of Birthdays 

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Celebration of Birthdays 

Many Muslim parents and children have misunderstood the concept of birthday in Islaam and different people have had different opinions regarding this issue. 

To begin with, it’s imperative to ask ourselves the origin of this famous and common event called birthday. 
Historically, the Romans were among the first people to celebrate birthdays many years before the birth of Isa alaihi salaam (B.C). 
To them birthdays meant celebrating the start of things, called a dies natalis (birth day). Temples, cities, and people were often remembered for their days of birth. All this in a society where a baby living past a year old was quite an accomplishment. 
As Kathryn Argetsinger has written
The birthday in the Roman mindset was much closer to a cultic religious celebration predominantly because each person had a genius (a tutelary spirit) that they sacrificed to on their day of birth. This deity (spirit) protected an individual for the year, and thus there was a re-up of that protection annually through the performance of a sacrifice. 
Birthday parties were a key mix of religion and friendship, where sacrifices were made, incense was burned, ritual cakes were made and eaten, and white robes were worn.
This is what history confirms to us about origin of birthday parties. 
It is now more than clear where this event came from and for this reason there is very close similarity between the Romans’ birthday parties and ours today:- 
– lighting candles

– exchanging gifts

– cutting cakes

– wearing special dresses. 
What many people do not realize while celebrating birthdays is that as per the Romans who are the teachers and inventors of birthday, it is done to please the spirit of a person for that particular year so as not to harm him or to be in good terms with him. 
Where is this and the teachings of Islaam in Aqeedah. 
In summary therefore, celebrating birthdays is a blind way of following people of distorted civilizations and belief and this is the main reason why there is no text that urges Muslims to celebrate the days they were born. 
One may argue that the Prophet (sall-Allahu alaihi wasallam) used to fast on Mondays because it was the day he was born. And the answer is this hadith is saheeh but does not support the argument made in the sense that the Prophet never said those words so that we also fast or celebrate the days WE were born, but to teach us that if we want to follow his Sunnah then we fast as he did – the day he was born. Furthermore, he never mentioned that it was a celebration to him, but it is understood that it was a way of him thanking Allah. 
In addition to the above, celebration of birthdays contain many other habits that are condemned in Islaam. For example: 
 – Playing music, singing and dancing. 

– Free mixing of boys and girls. 

– Wearing of shameful dresses among girls. 

– Honouring the Roman and Greek calendars in which the birthdays are found. 
May Allah give us hidaayah and thabaat fil Deen.

WOMEN: THE GREATEST TEMPTATION

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WOMEN: THE GREATEST TEMPTATION

WOMEN: THE GREATEST TEMPTATION
A FRIDAY SERMON BY: Muḥammad Ibn Ṣāliḥ al-‘Uthaymīn
Oh Muslims, there is a certain well known pastime of tribulation and temptation into which many people fall today. Unfortunately, this issue does not negatively affect only the individuals who fall into it. Rather, its consequences affect others as Allah (تعالى) says:
*Beware of a trial which will not afflict only those who have transgressed among you exclusively, and know that Allah is severe in penalty*. [2]
Muslims, the tribulations to which I refer are temptations pertaining to (the unlawful admiration of) women, and it is such trials about which the messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said:
*I will not leave behind a trial more harmful to men than (the temptations of) women*.[3]
Other ways these temptations spread is what some women of immoral conduct themselves perpetrate in their choice of clothing, their appearance, and lustful behaviors. By these choices, they are inclined to promote this type of tribulation. Such conduct was foreign to our righteous predecessors. Some women go to shopping centers to flaunt themselves, to exhibit their beauty with the most attractive clothing they own. They may then throw over it a thin cloak but one that might be shortened or raised up so that her attractive clothing underneath is displayed. They are dressed yet still appear naked, wearing the types of garments the women of Hell wear. The prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said:
*There are two types of the people of Hell that I have never seen: (1) People with whips like the tails of cattle with which they beat people, and (2) women who are dressed but appear naked, walking with an enticing strut with their heads looking like the humps of camels. They will never enter Paradise, nor even smell its fragrance although its scent can be perceived from such and such a distance*. [8]
Some women also frequent shopping centers adorned with gold jewelry or elegant watches, walking in such a manner and revealing her hands (in an attractive, seductive way) to entice those who see her even though Allah (Azza wa Jal) says:
*They (believing women) should not strike their feet in such a manner that the adornment they hide may be known*. [9]
Other women go out perfumed, sometimes choosing to wear the strongest, most fragrant perfume so that almost every man she passes who smells her scent, she allures him with it. The prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said about this:
*Any woman who has been around incense should not join us in the last evening prayer*. [10]
*A woman, if she wears perfume and then passes by a gathering (of men), she is this and that (meaning: a type of adulterer, fornicator)*. [11]
Other women frequent the malls unveiled or wearing a thin veil that barely conceals her face. Perhaps it is even worn as a way of beautifying her face, or just to hide some blemish on her face. Still other women may cover their faces yet they wear the veil so tightly that their nose, eyebrows, and cheeks are shown. These are no doubt temptations.
You also find women roaming shopping centers in a strutting, swaying manner and joke and giggle with their girlfriends. Sometimes they visit shops, with or without need, to chat with the salesman, prolonging their conversation. Perhaps she requests an item stored in the back of the shop that she actually does not want; she just wants to keep chatting with the salesman. Yet Allah (Azza wa Jal) told the prophet’s wives and they were considered the “mothers of the believers,” they were the most pure and farthest from any behaviors or situations of temptation – Allah told them:
*Do not be soft in speech (to men) for fear that he in whose heart is a disease should desire (you), but speak in an honorable manner*. [12]

I ask Allah to help us and you with regards to the medicine of integrity and honor, to guide us and guide others with us for He is capable of all things. All thanks are for Allah, the lord of the worlds, and may Allah send peace and prayers on our prophet, Muhammad, and upon his family and companions.

Women wearing perfume

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Women wearing perfume

Is it permissible for a woman to wear perfume when she goes out with her husband, knowing that she will not pass on men? If she has an accident or any urgent matter, will she be sinful if a man smells her perfume?.
Published Date: 2012-12-01
Praise be to Allaah.
When a woman wears perfume, the ruling depends on the situation: 
1 –  
Using perfume for the husband. 
This is mustahabb and recommended, because it is part of treating him kindly, and it helps to increase love between the spouses, when each of them pays attention to what the other likes. 
Al-Mannaawi said in Fayd al-Qadeer (3/190): 
As for putting on perfume and adorning herself for her husband, it is required and is something that is liked. One of the wise men said: For a woman to adorn herself and put on perfume for her husband is one of the strongest causes of love and affection between them, and wards off dislike and disdain, because the eye is the pioneer of the heart; if the eye looks at something attractive, the message will reach his heart and love will be created, but if it looks at something ugly or that it does not like of outfits or garments, that that message will reach the heart and dislike and disdain will be created. Hence the advice that Arab women gave to one another was: Beware of letting your husband see anything that does not please him or letting him smell anything from you that he finds off-putting. End quote. 
2 –  
Putting on perfume and going out with the aim of letting non-mahram men smell it. *This is haraam, and is a major sin*. 
It was narrated from Abu Moosa (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a woman puts on perfume and passes by people so that they can smell her fragrance, then she is such and such,” and he spoke sternly – meaning an adulteress. Narrated by Abu Dawood (4173) and al-Tirmidhi (2786); classed as saheeh by Ibn Daqeeq al-Eid in al-Iqtiraah (126) and by Shaykh al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi. 
al-Mannaawi said in Fayd al-Qadeer (1/355): 
“She is an adulteress” means: because of that she is exposed to zina, and implementing the means that lead to it and calling those who seek it. Hence she is called an adulteress in a metaphorical sense, because desire may prevail and real zina may take place. Her passing by men is likened to her sitting in their path so that they pass by her. End quote. 
3 – 
If she puts on perfume and goes out, and thinks it most likely that she will pass by a group in which there will be men who will smell her perfume and fragrance, *this is also haraam*, even if she does not intend to tempt men and that is not her aim, because this action is a fitnah (temptation) in and of itself. There is also an indication in sharee’ah that it is haraam and not allowed. 
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):  
“And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer palms of hands or one eye or dress like veil, gloves, headcover, apron), and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islâm), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of feminine sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allaah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful”
[al-Noor 24:31] 
So women are forbidden to show their adornments to non-mahram men, and perfume is undoubtedly one of the woman’s adornments, so it is included in this prohibition. 
And it was narrated that Zaynab, the wife of ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood, said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to us: “If one of you attends the mosque, let her not put on perfume.” Narrated by Muslim (443). 
If the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) forbade women to go out to the mosque wearing perfume, because men will usually smell some of the fragrance because of close proximity and there being no barrier between men and woman, then it is more likely that women are not allowed to go out to the marketplace and gatherings wearing perfume, although it is not regarded as a major sin, rather it is something that is clearly haraam.  
Ibn Hajar al-Haytami said in al-Zawaajir ‘an Iqtiraab al-Kabaa’ir (2/71-72): 
The ahaadeeth which count it as a major sin should be interpreted as meaning that this applies if the fitnah is certainly there; when there is merely the fear of fitnah, then it is makrooh, or when she thinks it will cause fitnah then it is haraam but is not a major sin, as is obvious. End quote. 
See also the answer to question no. 7850 
4 – 
When she puts on perfume and thinks it most likely that her fragrance will not reach people and that men will not smell any of it, such as if she is going out in her husband’s car on a trip to an isolated place, or to visit her family, or she is going out in her husband’s car to a gathering for women only, or she is going to the mosque in the car and she is going to get out at the entrance to the prayer-hall that is for women only and is completely separate  from the men, then she is going to come straight back in the car without walking in the street, and other such situations where the woman does not expect to pass through the streets and her aim in putting on perfume is to keep herself clean in general as enjoined by sharee’ah. In that case there is nothing wrong with her using perfume, because the reason for the prohibition, which is that the fragrance might reach other men, does not apply. 
The evidence for that is as follows: 
(i)                The apparent reason for the prohibition in the evidence quoted above does not apply in this case, so there is no fitnah and there is no provocation of desire.
(ii)              In Sunnah there is an indication that the womenfolk of the Sahaabah used to use perfume when they thought it most likely that it would not be smelt by men. 
It was narrated that ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: We used to go out with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) to Makkah, and we would apply perfume to our foreheads when entering ihraam, then if one of us sweated it would run down her face, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) would see it but he would not rebuke her. 
Narrated by Abu Dawood (1830) and classed as hasan by al-Nawawi in al-Majmoo’ (7/219) and as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood. 
This is to be understood in the light of the conditions that were known in earlier times, when the caravan of women was separate from that of men, or the woman would be in her howdah and did not mix with men or pass by the places where they were. 
Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (10/40): 
It is permissible for her to apply perfume if she is going out to a place of women and is not going to pass by men in the street. End quote. 
It says in Jalasaat Ramadaaniyyah (1415/al-Majlis al-Khaamis/Majmoo’at As’ilah tuhimm al-Usrah) by Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him): 
But if the woman is going to ride in the car and her fragrance will only be apparent to those before whom she may show the fragrance, and she will exit the car and go straight to her workplace without there being any men around her, then there is nothing wrong with it, because there is nothing haraam involved. When she is in her car it is as if she is in her house. But if she is going to pass by men then it is not permissible for her to wear perfume. End quote. 
If an emergency arises in which some men happen to smell the perfume of this woman, because of a car accident, for example, or a sudden illness because of which she is taken to the hospital and the like, then this is something that is forgiven, in sha Allah, because Allaah does not burden any soul beyond its scope and the shar’i ruling is to be followed in cases where one has the choice, not in cases of necessity. 
And Allaah knows best.
May Allah make it easy for us to follow that which he ordered of us. Ameen

Posting Of Pictures Of Women

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Posting Of Pictures Of Women

What is the ruling on a woman putting her picture on her Facebook page, especially since some of our sisters who wear hijab believes that putting pictures of themselves in hijab is something that is not forbidden in sharee‘ah? Could you explain so that I can advise them?.
Published Date: 2012-06-27
Praise be to Allaah.
It is haraam for a girl to put a picture of herself on Facebook or in chat rooms or on other websites, for a number of reasons: 
1.
This is contrary to covering and concealment that is enjoined upon women in the Qur’aan and Sunnah. Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, says concerning the noblest of women and the furthest of them from suspicion, namely the wives of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him): 
“And when you ask (his wives) for anything you want, ask them from behind a screen, that is purer for your hearts and for their hearts”
[al-Ahzaab 33:53] 
“O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e., screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is Ever OftForgiving, Most Merciful”
[al-Ahzaab 33:59] 
And He forbade women to speak softly, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):
“O wives of the Prophet! You are not like any other women. If you keep your duty (to Allah), then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery, etc.) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honourable manner”
[al-Ahzaab 33:32]. 
So Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, enjoined the wives of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), and the believing women in general, to observe hijab, so as to purify the hearts of the believing women and to protect them from anything that may give rise to temptation or suspicion, and so as to preserve their chastity and that of His believing slaves. Once this is understood, it will become clear that for a woman to put her picture where it will be seen by righteous and evildoers alike on such websites is something that is contrary to Allah’s teachings. 
2.
That opens the door to fitnah (temptation) and evil for the woman and for those who see her. How often have we heard and read painful stories caused by such things. How many pure and chaste women have fallen into the traps of those who do not fear Allah, evildoers who have tempted them with sweet words and promises until, when they had had their way with them, they turned their back on them and abandoned them with nothing but regret and loss, and perhaps shame in this world and in the Hereafter – Allah forbid. 
How many evildoers have tampered with those images and reproduced them by modern means, putting the head of a decent woman on the body of an immoral woman, then there will be great regret for what she brought upon herself and her family when regret is to no avail.  
3.
With regard to what you have mentioned about some women who wear hijab believing that putting their picture in hijab is not forbidden according to Islam, if what you mean by hijab is proper shar‘i hijab that covers the face and does not show the face of the woman, then this kind of thing is not forbidden in Islam, especially when there is a need for it. But this is not what they meant, because there is no benefit in doing this. What is the point of putting a picture of a black shape in which nothing appears?! 
But if what is meant is putting a picture of a woman with her face uncovered, even if she has covered the rest of her body, then we have explained that this is what leads to evil consequences that are sufficient to deem it forbidden, even if we do not say that it is obligatory for the woman to cover her face; so how about if that is obligatory? The sin in this case is multiplied and the danger is greater. By doing that she has transgressed and what the believing women have been accustomed to doing for centuries. 
Al-Ghazaali (may Allah have mercy on him) said in Ihya’ ‘Uloom ad-Deen (2/53): Men throughout the ages have always had their faces uncovered and women have always gone out with their faces covered. End quote. It says something similar in Fath al-Baari, 9/337. 
Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on him) said in Fath al-Baari (9/424): The custom of women in the past and more recently has been to cover their faces in front of non-mahram men. End quote.
Moreover, if everyone who has any common sense realises that the focal point of beauty and fitnah in women is the face, and this is what men want to see, and it is from this that it is judged whether a woman is beautiful or not, then publishing pictures in the manner mentioned opens the door to women for be tempted to be a source of temptation, and for them and their pictures to be treated disrespectfully, as they will be visible to anyone who wants to see them. 
And Allah knows best.
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Tawwakkaltu Ala-Allah

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Tawwakkaltu Ala-Allah

As salamu alaikum wa Rahmatullah 😊 I hope we are all in the best state of Imaan and Taqwa. Today’s fatwa is very educative and inspiring. It teaches a lot of lessons to we *sisters* like, faith in Allah, patience and a lot more. Though it’s a bit lengthy, but please take some minutes to digest it. Jazakumullahu khairan ❤❤❤
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*Q*💬 *Sheikh, I am 29 years old, I have not married yet. I always ask Allah to bless me with a righteous husband who helps me religiously and in life. I am sure that Allah will answer my prayer soon. I know all the preferable times of making dua. My problem is that I feel that every act worship I do is being done for the sake of answering my prayer. I fast because the dua of a fasting person will be answered, I pray late at night because making dua while praying late at night is accepted, I pray the sunan so that I become closer to Allah that He accepts my dua. In brief; I feel that all my worship is not purely for the sake of Allah, and this feeling suffocates me. What shall I do?*
*Another thing is I am very tired because of remaining unmarried, I keep asking Allah knowing that He is the most generous, most bounteous, but I fear my sins, I fear my dua is not being answered because of my sins, what shall I do? Please sheikh, advise me and make dua for me. Please, please, ask Allah to bless me with a righteous husband, better than I deserve. May Allah reward you and bless you with the highest paradise.*

*A*💬 Praise be to Allaah.

Allaah, may He be blessed and exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

*“it may be that you dislike a thing and Allaah brings through it a great deal of good”*

[al-Nisa’ 4:19]
*“and it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allaah knows but you do not know”*

[al-Baqarah 2:216] .
💫It was narrated that Ibn ‘Abbaas said: I was riding behind the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) one day and he said: *“O boy, I shall teach you some words. Be mindful Allaah and He will take care of you. Be mindful of Allaah and He will protect you. If you ask then ask of Allaah, and if you seek help then seek help from Allaah. Know that if the nation were to gather together to benefit you in some way, they would not benefit you except in something that Allaah has decreed for you, and if they were to gather together to harm you in some way, they would not harm you except in something that Allaah has decreed for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried.”* Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (2516).
💫You should note that what you have to do is to be content with your situation and realize that what Allaah has chosen for you is the best, and you missing out on something may be a good thing.
💫Do not let the whispers of the accursed shaytaan affect you and lead you every which way. Rather you should be as our Lord likes you to be, and accept His decree and thank Him for His blessings. Ponder the blessings that Allaah has bestowed upon you, and do not worry. Keep yourself busy with worship of Allaah and make a program for yourself so that you can wake up for Fajr prayer and then read Qur’aan and adkhaar and du’aas. 
💫Attend lectures and reminders and Islamic conferences. Through this program you will be able to relax and find peace of mind. Always comfort yourself with the words of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) *“How wonderful is the situation of the believer, for all his affairs are good. If something good happens to him, he gives thanks for it and that is good for him; if something bad happens to him, he bears it with patience, and that is good for him. This does not apply to anyone but the believer.”* Narrated by Muslim (2999).
💫Be kind to yourself, and remember that there are millions of *women* like you who are not married, but many of them may be happier than many of those who are married.

May Allaah open your heart to contentment with His decree and give you peace of mind about your situation, and fill your heart with happiness. You are better off than many others!
💫Does your sorrow at not being married increase when you see a *woman* and her husband and children going on a trip?
💫 Does this remind you that you are alone and without a husband and children?
💫Does it make you feel that you have been wronged, or that you are unfortunate, or that you are deprived?

Wait a minute, do not let these negative feelings and frustrations prevail over you and increase your sense of sadness and sorrow.

You have seen only one aspect of this family’s life, but there are many other aspects that you have not seen.
💫Perhaps if you saw the *wife* who has a hard-hearted husband who shows no compassion, and you heard her complaints about her continual suffering with him, you would praise Allaah for saving you from marriage.
💫If you sit with a divorced *woman* who laments her fate and says that she regrets having married, and you listen to her as she complains about how much she put up with and how much she suffered until she got her divorce, and regained her sense of security, perhaps you will praise Allaah for not having got married and suffered what she has suffered.
💫If you think about what thousands of *wives* are suffering and what may others whose marriages ended in divorce have had to put up with, this will reduce many of the feelings of regret that you have because of not being married.
💫This way of thinking will dispel your feeling of having been hard done by, and will replace those feelings with a beautiful sense of contentment, which will earn you the pleasure of Allaah, as I told you in the previous message.

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💫Remember your friend’s complaints about her husband yelling and being angry all the time, and how you have been saved from that.

💫Remember your neighbour who left her home weeping after her husband beat her and hurt her.
💫“I have reached my forties and am not married, and I praise Allaah for everything that He has decreed for me. At first I felt sad and upset whenever I was alone, and I regretted my misfortune every time one of my friends got married. I did not have any conditions or specific characteristics in the man I wanted to marry; I was prepared to accept any righteous man. But years went by without this man coming to me. I began to withdraw from people so that I would not see their looks of pity but I could not escape them completely, because I would see them in the eyes of my parents and siblings who would pray for me every time they saw me. One day at the end of Sha’baan, as we were preparing for the blessed month of Ramadaan, Allaah guided me to keep a Mus-haf just for myself. I decided to read the whole Qur’aan and I found it very difficult to read it because I had stopped reading for the last ten years. I also found it difficult to understand some verses, so I bought a book of Tafseer (commentary) and I started to read it so that I could understand the verses of Qur’aan that I was reading. Ramadaan ended but my attachment to the Book of Allaah did not stop; I carried on reading the verses of Allaah and reading the commentary thereon.
“Then came the day when I read the verse in Soorat al-Kahf (interpretation of the meaning): *Wealth and children are the adornment of the life of this world. But the good righteous deeds that last, are better with your Lord for rewards and better in respect of hope* [al-Kahf 18:46] . I wondered, what does the good righteous deeds that last ’ mean? I found in the Tafseer that it refers to all righteous deeds.
“I fell in love with righteous deeds such as *prayer, fasting, charity, tasbeeh, tahmeed, tahleel and takbeer.* Happiness began to fill my heart and I became content. I praised Allaah greatly for guiding me to this path and teaching me these things.”
Sister Umm Yamaan adds:

*“But this is not a call for monasticism, rather it is a call to accept the will and decree of Allaah.”*

Ghayr Mutazawwajaat walakin Sa’eedaat *(Unmarried but Happy)* 1/4-7 by Muhammad Rasheed al-‘Uwayd.
But every girl should understand that the purpose of life is to be a true slave of Allaah in both the specific and general senses. If she has the opportunity to establish a Muslim household, then the girl will be worshipping Allaah by getting married and raising children, and raising for us the generation that we want.

But if that does not happen, then the ways of worshipping Allaah in general are many, foremost among which is calling people to Allaah. So she should focus on *women* who have deviated from the path of Allaah and take them as her daughters and guide them to the straight path of Allaah.
 *“The one who calls people to guidance will have a reward equal to theirs, without it detracting from their reward in the slightest.”*

So regard the Muslim community as your home, and be like a beacon of guidance, truth, justice and knowledge, and let us advise one another to adhere to truth and patience. *“Surely, Allaah wastes not the reward of the Muhsinoon [those who do good]”* [al-Tawbah 9:120] .

Ghayr Mutazawwajaat walakin Sa’eedaat (Unmarried but Happy) 1/12 by Muhammad Rasheed al-‘Uwayd.

See also the answer to questions no. 21234 and 72257 .
And Allaah knows best.

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