This Ramadhaan…… I will guard my tongue


“Man does not utter a single word except that there is an observer nearby, ready (to record).” [50:18]

Abu Hurairah reported that the Prophet said: “Fasting is not [abstaining] from eating and drinking only, but also from vain speech and foul language. If one of you is being cursed or annoyed, he should say: “I am fasting, I am fasting.” [Ibn Khuzaimah, Ibn Hibban, and al-Hakim; Sahih].

Abu Hurairah also reported that the Prophet (S) said: “Allah does not need the fast of one who does not abandon false speech or acting according to his false speech [Bukhari and others]]

He also reported the Prophet (S) as saying: “Whoever does not abandon falsehood in word and action, then Allah Mighty and Majestic has no need [i.e. will not accept] that he should leave his food and drink”.[Bukhari]

Abu Hurairah narrated that the Prophet said: “Perhaps a fasting person will get nothing from his fast save hunger, and perhaps the one who stands to pray at night will get nothing from his standing except sleeplessness.” [an-Nasa’i, Ibn Majah and al-Hakim / Sahih al-Jami`]. In another Narration “It may be that a fasting person attains nothing but hunger and thirst from his fasting”. [Ibn Majah, Darimi, Ahmad and al-Baihaqee; Sahih]

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So this Ramadan, I will guard my tongue:

Before I speak, I’ll ask myself: Does my speaking right now add anything to the silence? If not, then I’ll learn to enjoy that silence. There is something beautiful about the clam and quiet, something beautiful about sitting back to reflect without always filling the space with words.

Before I speak, I’ll ask myself if my words are going to hurt anyone. We joke, sometimes, without paying attention to hurting people; and we joke, sometimes, actually trying to get under people’s skins, actually intending to mock or ridicule. Laughter with friends and family is important, but it doesn’t have to be at anyone’s expense.

Before I speak, I’ll ask myself if I’m about to say something haram. Am I being truthful, or exaggerating to induce a reaction? Am I lying because I think it will save me from getting into trouble? Would my choice of words displease Allah? Will they offend anyone? Am I mentioning people in ways they wouldn’t like to be mentioned?

For years, I’ve been trying to make sure I don’t backbite or gossip, and I try harder every Ramadan. I’ve gotten better over time, alhamdulillah… I feel like each time I try, I get a little bit better. But I’m not there yet. I know I can be kinder with my words, and more careful with my story-telling. So this Ramadan, I’ll try even harder.

Before I speak, I want to ask myself: Which angel will be writing down these words? The angel on the right, or the angel on the left? Human speech – when not in excess, when guarded with iman and taqwah – can be a beautiful thing; it’s a gift from Allah. I want to utilize it as such. I want my words to mean something to the people who hear them. I want my words to add value to the silence. I want Allah to be pleased with me when I speak.

So this Ramadan, I will do everything I can to guard my tongue.

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