Anas (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) passed by a woman who was crying over a grave and said, “Fear Allah and be patient.” She said, “Away from me! My calamity has not befallen you and you are not aware of it.” The woman was later told that it was the Prophet (PBUH) (who had advised her). She came to his door where she found no doorkeeper. She said, “(I am sorry) I did not know you.” Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “Patience is (becoming) only at the first (stroke) of grief”.
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
Another narration in Muslim says: The woman was crying over her son.
This hadith tells us what patience really is. When a calamity befalls a person, what is befitting is for one to be patient by calling on Allah (i.e to help him) and if necessary, one’s close companions who would be of help to the situation. The one who wails loudly, and the one who complains at every opportunity, then later resolves to patience, are not counted amongst those who have been patient.
May Allah (swt) make us among the patient ones, ameen.